I am such a bad person: I repent, I suffer, but I can’t help it.

Why not every person can live peacefully on, having done a bad deed or not having done a good one? Why do we have remorse? How to deal with them? For a long time, scientists could not find answers to these questions.

Initially, it was believed that the pangs of conscience are a product of the activity of a certain area of ​​the human brain, which is supposedly located in the forehead. As it turned out, the reason really lies in our body: not only in the gray matter, but also in the genes. In addition, the upbringing of the individual, his character, has a strong influence. But everyone, without exception, is capable of feeling reproaches of conscience in one way or another. Agree, each of us at least once in his life began to reproach himself for any act. We replayed the unfortunate situation over and over again in our heads in order to find a more acceptable way out of it.

What is conscience?

Conscience, or, as they say, later regret, catches up with us at moments when we realize that we have done something bad, we have acted wrong. It comes in the form of an endless stream of thoughts. But these are not just ordinary thoughts that accompany us throughout the day. These are eating, depressing and annoying phrases: “If I had acted differently, nothing bad would have happened”, “These are not my problems, everyone can do their best, I don’t have to help”, “And if there is a chance to fix it? " etc. Of course, everyone experiences the pangs of conscience in different ways, because everyone's thinking is different.

Yes, repentance is nothing more than the voice of reason, laid down by Mother Nature in the early stages of the formation of human consciousness. He "lives" in us so that we can distinguish bad from good, right from wrong. Only nature did not take into account: we begin to think about the consequences only after we have done something.

Perhaps this is not a beacon at all that gives us a chance to make the right choice, but a punishment for the wrong one? After all, regret sometimes causes a lot of inconvenience. And one of them is the inability to think about anything other than your dishonest offense. Conscience helps us in the future to think first and then do it. However, not everyone knows how to learn from their mistakes.

Are shame and conscience the same thing?

Let us recall the moment when in childhood we blushed because we had to listen to reproaches from our parents about another prank. In those moments, the face was instantly filled with paint. We were ashamed. We regretted our action at the moment - here and now. More often than not, this just happened under the pressure of other people who, trying to teach wisdom, shamed us.

What followed next? Never mind! We completely forgot about all the problems and abuse of our parents. Not a trace of negative feelings remained. The discomfort passed quickly enough. After all, as you know, we are ashamed in front of other people, and ashamed in front of ourselves. In the case of the parents, a mistake was made. The adults just shamed, instead of explaining. Perhaps, if they put everything on the shelves in detail, we would not only feel ashamed, but also conscience. And in the future they would not do anything like that.

Based on this, you can find a number of differences between these two concepts. It usually becomes a shame immediately after the deed. The man is trying to correct himself with an apology. He does everything to resolve the situation, after which calmness or even pride sets in. Repentance comes imperceptibly and sometimes even unexpectedly. Sometimes a person begins to pester with pangs of conscience because of a situation that happened a week ago. Why it happens?

As already mentioned, it is society that forces the individual to admit his guilt. According to the rules of etiquette, he apologizes and forgets about the problem, since the signal was given to the brain - "hang up". Forgiveness plays the role of complacency for us: after all, there are no complaints. Remorse appears only when the brain either “didn’t understand” that there was an apology and forgiveness, or they really didn’t follow.

"Residence" of conscience in the human body

Few people know, but there is a very interesting theory. According to her, each organ also has a spiritual function, in addition to the physiological one. For example, the heart is responsible for mental pain. Ear diseases, as it turned out, arise due to the fact that a person painfully perceives refusals and reproaches from other people. At the same time, the stomach, digesting food, together with it "absorbs" impressions. And the kidneys are supposedly responsible for conscience in the human body.

The spiritual and physiological functions of this paired organ are similar. At the physical level, the kidneys cleanse the body of toxins and toxins. On the spiritual level, they similarly try to "bring out" all the worst, poisoning our consciousness. True, it does not always work out.

Why does the conscience gnaw?

It is quite clear that we feel regret after committing an offense and until we hear the coveted: "I forgive you." But why should a person make excuses to himself? Why can't we just forget about the conflict as a bad dream and not bother with all kinds of nonsense? Everything is easily explained: the pangs of conscience are not excuses that we invent for ourselves in order to calm down. It is about responsibility towards those who have been offended.

The human brain is designed in such a way that he must be sure of everything, even in the correctness of his "master". Therefore, thinking about what happened is nothing more than a way to get rid of annoying and sometimes boring reproaches of conscience. Unfortunately, one cannot be saved by making excuses and looking for evidence of one's own innocence.

How to deal with pangs of conscience?

It turns out that you can not even listen to the so-called voice of reason, ignore it. Our brain does just that in some cases. For example, when there are thoughts in a person's head that are more important than self-flagellation about a particular curiosity. How to get rid of the pangs of conscience? You just need to learn to respect yourself. After all, if a person has low self-esteem, he will be afraid to do something wrong. Consequently, the individual will constantly involuntarily remind himself of the punctures.

Some have a tendency to make up false excuses for themselves that they think might free them from remorse. But it was not there! After all, those who seek excuses are never right in the end. Therefore, it is necessary to exclude the invention of reasons for innocence and how to scold yourself for what you have done.

And you have a conscience ...

The pangs of conscience in the fate of famous literary heroes is a fairly frequent occurrence. Many of them, to one degree or another, thought about the correctness of their actions, made excuses to themselves, or continued to gnaw themselves. Raskolnikov is rightfully considered the most conscientious character in Russian literature. One has only to remember how at first he raved about the fact that they wanted to seize him, imprison him, catch him. The hero was not even ashamed. Like, the old woman-pawnbroker herself is to blame. Raskolnikov did not consider himself a "trembling creature." He assured himself that he "has the right" to kill those who allegedly interfere with the life of decent people. But after the deed, everything changed. The pangs of conscience drove him into a corner to such an extent that he literally started And did not calm down until he received what he deserved for killing the old woman.

Anna Karenina is another conscientious heroine. But she reproached herself not for murder, but for treason to her husband. The woman chose her own punishment - she threw herself under the train.

So, in their works based on psychologism, the authors show what a terrible thing conscience is. Her reproaches are capable of shining mad, bring to suicide. Therefore, you do not need to commit those acts for which you would be painfully ashamed.

Dear friends! We understand that remorse is familiar to everyone, and we are very glad that you want to deal with this issue. After all, remorse can be our friend, but there can also be an invisible enemy that belittles your value and dignity. When you feel a pang of remorse haunted you, learn to recognize whether you are dealing with a friend or an enemy. What is really happening - do you feel real repentance for sins or spiritual turmoil raised by an inner enemy? We hope that our material will be at least a little useful to you.

What is true remorse? - this concept focuses on true guilt, representing sin against God. Remorse, like true guilt, is a consequence of sin. Let's remember that in the beginning God created man and woman in His own image and likeness. This means that we must reflect the personality of God in everything we do. Guilt accompanies any act that distorts the truth about God. Such actions are an insult to God and sin in His eyes. Conscience torments us all when we are guilty. The Bible definitely tells us that each of us is responsible for our own behavior and will give an account of it to God. “If anyone sins and does something against the commandments of the Lord, which should not have been done, and through ignorance he will become guilty and bear sin on himself” (Lev 5:17). “... each of us will give an account of himself to God” (Rom. 14:12). “Therefore, whoever eats this bread or drinks the cup of the Lord unworthily will be guilty against the body and blood of the Lord” (1 Cor 11:27).

We are all sinners, and therefore none of us humans are capable of redeeming ourselves or anyone else. And it was necessary for the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to come to earth, to live among us, to sacrifice Himself for all people in order to reconcile us with God. Dear friends, God has not only forgiven you, He has taken away sin from you. “As far as the east is from the west, so has He removed our iniquities from us” (Psalm 102: 12). Think - could east and west ever meet? Or are there more words in Jer. 31:34 ... - - “And they will no longer teach one another, brother brother, and say: 'Know the Lord', for all themselves will know Me, from small to great, says the Lord, because I will forgive their iniquities and their sins I will not remember any more ”. And more about this in Hebrews 8:12 - "... because I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and I will remember their sins and their iniquities no more." And how often do we not forgive ourselves, and we torture ourselves for years for what we have received forgiveness from God long ago ?! What happens to us in this case? - There is such a concept - false guilt. What it is? - False guilt is based on judging ourselves that we did not live up to our or someone else's expectations. But we need to figure it out - what were these expectations? They are often completely unfounded! Sometimes a false sense of false guilt arises when you blame yourself even if you have not done anything wrong, or when you continue to blame yourself even after you have confessed and repented of your sin to God and the Lord has forgiven you. Even confession does not always relieve guilt. Revelation 12:10 says that Satan slanders Christians, he loves to burden believers with false guilt and self-condemnation. One of his favorite moves is to bring back our past, remind us of our failures, and make you feel unwelcome and rejected by God.

Many people think that remorse and shame are the same thing, but they are not. Having experienced remorse for what you have done, you begin to be ashamed of yourself, that is, you experience a feeling of shame. This constant sense of one's own imperfection creates a strong sense of one's own unworthiness and a constant fear of rejection and abandonment. Deep traces of shame often remain in the soul for life. Shame gives rise to an internal need to control your emotions and behavior; creates an inner loneliness that fosters unhealthy attachments. If you live with the fear of rejection, loneliness or your uselessness, worthlessness, you will eventually become a person obsessed with fear. You can wear the clothes of personal success, but the deep-seated fear of being exposed as “needy” creates a desire to hide your true self from people. This reduces the ability to love and intimacy in relationships with people. It becomes difficult for us to express our feelings, empathize with others, face failure, accept criticism, remain alone, make decisions and take responsibility ... Let us recall the words of Scripture - “God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God is in him ...<…>There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because in fear there is anguish; he who fears is not perfect in love ”(1 John 4:16, 18). And the words of the Lord, recorded by the prophet Isaiah - “Do not be afraid, for I am with you; do not be embarrassed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, and I will help you, and I will support you with the right hand of My righteousness ”(Isa. 41:10).

When you feel ashamed of a bad deed, the fear of rejection rises to the surface, and anger becomes the simplest weapon against the person who exposes you - “In anger, do not sin; meditate in your hearts, on your couches, and be quiet ”(Ps 4: 5). If we took a break, would spend this time in meditation, examining our hearts and turning to the Lord for help, there would be no distortions in our attitude to ourselves and to the people around us.
Most people do not understand how destructive can be a false sense of guilt in relationships between people.

"How to Respond to False Remorse?" - When you once again begin to replay in your head the old sins of which you have repented, understand that these are the intrigues of Satan, who wants to plunge you into despondency. Ask yourself, "What am I hearing?" - (And if you replay old sins in your mind - you hear the accusation!) "What do I feel?" (Naturally, while doing this you most often feel remorse.) And the most important question !!! Don't forget about it !!! - "Where is the truth?" (And the truth is, you are totally forgiven !!!) And of course, always use the Scriptures as a guide. Since you accepted Christ as your Savior, and the Savior died to atone for your sin, try to focus on God's truth: “So now there is no condemnation for those who in Christ Jesus live not according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit” (Rom. 8: 1 ). Another tip is to include this verse in your prayer. Unlike Satan, who makes false accusations, the Holy Spirit never blames true Christians. As a conscientious Father, God sometimes allows us to experience the consequences of our sins so that we can change. (Read Hebrews 12: 4-11.) But, He creates in your heart the desire to do His will. (Phil 2:13) "For God works in you both will and action according to His own pleasure."

So there are two kinds of guilt: one is a friend who speaks the truth and gently leads you to repentance and forgiveness. And the other is a secret enemy who taunts and condemns a person, causing him shame
and a sense of humiliation. The Apostle Peter warns us that we must not allow Satan to lead us astray - "Be sober, watch, for your adversary the devil walks like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour" (1 Pet 5: 8). The Bible says that Satan is a slanderer and a deceiver ... Therefore, it is important for us to understand well what are the specific differences between true and false guilt. This will help us see when we are torturing ourselves in vain ... True guilt is fact-based and leads to repentance, accepts forgiveness, and reconciles with God and people. “And you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free” (John 8:32). False guilt is based on feelings and leads to a purely worldly fear of bad consequences. Fills a person with self-pity, leads to depression and leads to alienation from God and other people.

“If, in sinning, I must feel remorse, why then do I feel (when I sin) happy?” - Scripture does not say that sin is unattractive. The charm and beauty of sin lies in the fact that it really promises happiness. If sin were uninteresting, unattractive, who would sin? But the Bible warns that the pleasure that sin brings is fleeting - “The joy of the wicked is short-lived, and the joy of the hypocrite is momentary ...” (Job 20: 5). Very often this feeling of happiness ends with the strongest remorse and severe depression ...

Because false feelings of guilt can go unnoticed throughout their lives, few people see them as a “criminal” that harms relationships and destroys intimacy.

"How do I know what sins are hidden in the depths of my soul, if I do not even realize where the truth is?" - You can ask friends, restrain your natural desire for self-defense and listen to the truth that God will reveal to you. Trust God. He knows the secrets of your heart and will reveal them to those who sincerely seek the truth. His voice will be loving and soft, reassuring and reassuring. “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, then He, being faithful and just, will forgive us (our) sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness ”(1 John 1: 8-9).

No feeling penetrates as deeply into the soul as guilt, but it is precisely this that is most difficult to detect and understand. We have already said that a person can feel guilty - without guilt. Remember? - a sense of false guilt. Feeling guilty does not mean that you have disobeyed God or violated His moral laws. True guilt is the result of honest self-knowledge and the disclosure of secret transgressions and sins for which you are accountable to God. “Who will discern his faults? Cleanse me from my secrets, and keep Thy servant from the willful, so that they may not prevail over me ”(Ps 18: 13-14). Therefore, we need to undertake spiritual research ... How to do this? - Ask yourself: "Is there unrepentant sin on me?" - if you found such a sin - repent of it before God and the person before whom you sinned (if possible). Ask God to forgive you and turn away from your sin ... To do this, ask God to give you the power of the Holy Spirit so as not to commit such a sin in the future. Understand, friends, that the Lord can use your guilt for positive purposes to bring you into the light of His truth. True remorse is valuable because God uses it to convince you to change the negative to the positive.

Conscience tells us what is good and what is bad. She is capable of knowing the will of God and distinguishing it from the will of man. She approves of the good and condemns the evil. “They (the Gentiles) show that the work of the law is written in their hearts, as evidenced by their conscience and their thoughts, now accusing, now justifying one another” (Rom. 2:15). We often speak of a "clear conscience". A cleansed conscience can freely serve God. "... The Blood of Christ, who by the Holy Spirit brought Himself blameless to God, will cleanse our conscience from dead works, for serving the living and true God!" (Heb. 9:14). A good conscience can withstand the attacks of the enemy. “Have a good conscience, so that those for which they reproach you as evildoers may be ashamed that reproach your good life in Christ” (1 Pet 3:16). But there is also a defiled conscience - that is, a bad conscience that has not been brought up or succumbed to someone else's influence. “For the pure, everything is pure; but for the defiled and unbelieving there is nothing pure, but both their mind and their conscience are defiled ”(Titus 1:15). The conscience can become insensitive and even burned out. Burnt conscience - died, became insensitive to the action of the Holy Spirit due to deliberate and repeated violation of the will of God, so 1 Tim 4: 2 speaks of hypocritical false believers, "burnt in their conscience"

But what if a person has a guilt complex (a false guilt complex - it will be more accurate)? - The roots of false feelings of guilt go back to early childhood. If you heard repeated reproaches that you are "naughty" or "bad", a voice began to sound in your heart: "Aren't you ashamed!" Then your feelings began to convince you: "The love of others is determined by my behavior." "My behavior is not in line with other people's expectations." "I can be rejected and abandoned." This is how many of us create a negative attitude towards ourselves, wrong stereotypes of attitudes towards other people begin to take shape, which take root and remain with us even in adulthood. Then true remorse (real sorrow for sin) after actions that hurt others very quickly, almost immediately turn into a false sense of guilt (fear of rejection by others).

To stop forming a false guilt complex in ourselves, we need to learn to distinguish the voice of true guilt. He reminds us that we are all guilty of different sins. - Check - "Do you feel that you are a failure and have no value, unlike others?" If there is, then this is not the voice of true guilt ... The voice of true guilt forms your character - "Do you care how you look in the eyes of other people?" Answer yourself honestly. He speaks of the love of God and encourages us, admits failure - "Do you feel humiliated and confused when you have done something wrong?" "Do you have a feeling that you cannot be healed, that you are just a victim of your past?" If there is, then this is a false feeling. The voice of true guilt lifts the spirit and gives joy when you communicate with God and speak about the future with optimism. - “For only I know the intentions that I have for you, says the Lord, intentions for good and not for evil, in order to give you a future and hope” (Jer 29:11).

To get rid of the false guilt complex, one must learn to recognize the voice of the enemy. Satan loves to hide under the guise of a servant of God. While blaming and condemning people with a keen conscience, he uses his powerful weapon, false guilt, using guilt and fear to cause intense spiritual discouragement in them. Learn to recognize devilish lies. He often addresses you using an unreasonable statement: "You must ..." - "You must be more energetic and capable." "You have to get over your loss much faster." "You must do more for the poor." "You should never show anger and frustration." "You mustn't scream or show weakness." "You must be an impeccable friend, husband (or wife), parent or subordinate."

There are no big and small sins in the eyes of God. His forgiveness covers all sins, but some of us cannot forgive ourselves in any way, not realizing that by this they put ourselves above God. These tortured souls must rebuff Satan's slander and remind him: "I am redeemed by the blood of Christ!" In the Bible, God never says that He forgives all our sins, except ... (lies, deceit, anger). Memorize the following Scripture passages: 1 John 1: 9 - "If we confess our sins, then He, being faithful and righteous, will forgive us (our) sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Isa 1:18 - “... If your sins be as scarlet, I will whiten you as snow; if they are red like purple, I will whiten like a wave. " Rom 8: 33–34 “Who will blame God's elect? God justifies them. Who condemns? Christ Jesus died, but also rose again: He is at the right hand of God, He also intercedes for us. "

So - 1) Find the true source of your guilt: analyze why you are tormented by remorse and determine whether your guilt is true or false. 2) Take responsibility for your sin: Agree with God that you are guilty of sin and make amends for those against whom you have sinned. “If we confess our sins, then He, being faithful and just, will forgive us (our) sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1: 9). 3) Understand that God is seriously speaking to you: try to believe what God is saying and thank Him for endlessly forgiving you. 4) Stop focusing on the past: don't cling to past pain, stop judging yourself, and try to forgive other people. 5) Take the time to renew your mind: memorize the Scriptures that speak of God's forgiveness and remember that "in Christ you are a new creation." “Put aside the old way of life of the old man; be renewed with the spirit of your mind” (Eph 4: 22-23). 6) Learn to distinguish the voice of the Holy Spirit from the voice of Satan: answer Satan with the words of Scripture. 7) Turn to God with a prayer for your acceptance of His forgiveness and let Christ change you. “And it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. And what I now live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me ”(Gal 2:20). Understand that your feelings will not change overnight, and that your feelings always follow your thoughts. “You need patience so that, having done the will of God, you will receive the promise” (Heb. 10:36).

Prayer - “Holy God, Heavenly Father, help me get rid of the feeling of false guilt. Teach me to discern the cruel lies of Satan and to rely on Your Word, which is irrevocable. Make me sensitive to the touch of Your Spirit. Thank You Father for Your all-perfect love and endless forgiveness. I pray in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ. Amen".

Each fall is an opportunity to learn something, get a valuable look into your own world, take great responsibility for your life. However, the frequent experience of disappointment through our moral falls causes the feeling of guilt not to leave us, and we condemn ourselves. In such situations, guilt feelings are harmful: they become torment instead of being an incentive. Feelings of guilt accompany us in life, and remorse is a normal experience for most of us.

How we perceive guilt affects our emotional and spiritual development. Only a psychopath claims to have no guilt, but this personality type is not the subject of our reflections. We will talk about those who experience normal feelings of guilt in their lives. It is absurd to say that we should never feel guilty about anything. If this were true, then our society would be truly psychopathic. None of us would be safe in the presence of someone.

Normal, healthy feelings of guilt are what preserves the health of society. Feelings of guilt can be a stimulus, a quick, painful shake that drives us to change. A remorse helps us admit that we did wrong — and that is how it should be. These feelings should also help us learn from our own mistakes. Have we ever stopped to realize how many falls, mistakes, sins there are in our life? How do we deal with the consequences of all this - with feelings of guilt, and learn from the experience? Sometimes we imprison ourselves - behind bars of remorse.

This condition is called chronic guilt. It does not leave a person after forgiveness, forgiveness of sins, an act of regret, even after compensation for a committed offense, it constantly gravitates over a person and paralyzes him. This is how guilt feelings become neurotic and interfere with normal functioning. Sometimes we see such self-punishment due to the divorce of spouses, the death of a loved one, loss of a job, or because of disappointment; also in the case when we intentionally hurt someone, when we are vindictive. In such cases, the guilty party unnecessarily tortures himself for his shortcomings and mistakes.

Consciously or subconsciously, people sometimes inflict wounds on themselves in order to determine their own punishment. It is extremely important to have contact with the subtle, hidden feelings of guilt and get it to the surface - otherwise it will disorganize our lives. A muffled feeling of guilt will haunt us in a different form: anxiety, depression, irritation, or in the form of various psychosomatic abnormalities. Sometimes we have remorse for no apparent reason. We have deliberately done nothing wrong. We say: "I have remorse, but I cannot formulate why." Such a ridiculous feeling can create anxiety and endless torture. From time to time, such feelings can torment us. If we allow them to "get" themselves, they are able to take over our life. Mostly this is illogical and unfounded.

Solving the problem of guilt does not mean liberation from the consequences of our failures. We will live with this and correct what we have done, for example - pay for the plate that we broke by throwing it at our brother; refute the lies that you said about someone. The consequences of trauma are especially painful for us when it comes to our close relationships. Therefore, it happens that in spite of the forgiveness received from the offended, in spite of regret for the deed, our connection is not restored in its former form or even disintegrates. This is how families break up; when one of the partners is able to convince the other to return, it comes to divorce. In such situations, it takes more time for the remorse to go out.

Many people lack a sense of conscience and responsibility in their lives. For other people, on the contrary, these feelings interfere with their lives and turn their lives into continuous agony. Neither option is the correct perception of life. All psychologists recommend to "hold" the sense of conscience to the necessary condition.

That is, when it is necessary - to show it, when it is not necessary - just to forget. Because, in life, there are always situations in which conscience can act in completely different "roles". In this article we will analyze the question of how to get rid of conscience.

How dangerous is conscience

As strange as it sounds, conscience can even be dangerous. There are often cases when people, under the influence of their conscience, simply spoil their lives, allowing other people or life situations to mock them. Therefore, in psychology there is a certain section dealing with this particular problem - the extreme influence of conscience on a person's life. Very often, you just simply need to get rid of it.

So how can you get rid of your own conscience

• First of all, you need to understand that life is a very difficult and complex structure, so it is simply impossible to go through it without any mistakes. You cannot protect yourself from wrong actions in relation to other people, just as other people cannot protect themselves from the same actions in relation to, for example, you. Therefore, the very first rule, no matter how wrong it may seem, is the following: do not worry too much if you did something not quite right. Of course, this should not be part of your habits.
• If you did not do the right thing, then instead of tormenting and reproaching yourself, simply analyze the situation and take all the necessary measures so that such a situation will never be repeated in your life. It is better to do wrong once and not allow such situations than to do wrong, torment yourself with remorse and, ultimately, do wrong again.
• An important element in the process of getting rid of your own conscience is taking action after an unpleasant situation has set in. Instead of shedding tears and cursing yourself for this or that act, simply make decisions to eliminate it. It will be much more useful and pleasant for people who have suffered from you if you help resolve this situation with them than you will simply regret and your conscience will gnaw at you.
• Get tempered physically and spiritually. Everyone has long known that a healthy mind is in a healthy body. This is true, you can't argue with it. The stronger you are physically, the more stable your psyche and your consciousness will be, the less attention you will pay to your conscience. This does not mean that you need to be a boor, a heartless and callous person. Not at all. You just need to know and be able to control your feelings of guilt and conscience.
• Try never to go back. Don't regret anything you have done. Even if it was the wrong thing to do. If you can fix something - fix it, if not and the train has already left, then what can you do. But don't think about the past. Live the future and direct your forces to the potential of your body to overcome itself and prevent similar problems after.
• In some situation, it is possible to use the technique of self-deception. If you are already completely upset and have lost sleep and peace (which is very often the case), then you can say to yourself that you did it under some certain circumstances, in which you simply could not do otherwise. Instead of getting upset, tell yourself that you were right and that if you hadn't done this, the consequences might have been completely different. Again, I want to repeat once again that this technique is acceptable only in isolated cases and only for therapeutic purposes (in the literal sense of the word, because conscience can be a real illness that will weigh you down and torment you). Excessive use of such self-hypnosis threatens big problems in shaping your personality and outlook on life and the world around you.
• Try to rethink the situation again. There are often such cases when people torment themselves with remorse, and then, after rethinking the situation, they realize that they were not so wrong. Here you are, rethink and analyze the whole situation (only this should be done not at the peak moment of the crisis of your conscience, but a little later, having calmed down) and see if you were absolutely right and conscience should not torment you, but completely different people. If necessary, ask for advice from people who could be neutral about this situation.

In general, be more confident in yourself, love yourself and put on offense not only to people, but also to your conscience.

Believe me, having learned to control it, you will look at life in completely different colors. All fears will disappear and you will just start living.

Conscience is the most important character trait of a spiritual person. And character is the essence of the Ego, and it is transmitted from incarnation to incarnation. How many lives do you need to live to acquire this trait ?! How many tests do you need to go through, to accumulate life experience, to acquire the ability to independently accept moral obligations, so that Conscience becomes an integral part of a person who can be safely called a Man with a capital letter ?!

Conscience is the inner moral law of every person, and everyone can declare that he is not without Conscience. His conscience reflects the inner world and understanding of his life through many reasons: through upbringing, through pain, through emotional experiences, through everything that made this person exactly what he is now, this minute. But even after a moment, a person can realize himself in a completely different way. It is either an internal insight or an external event.

“The law that lives in us is called conscience. Conscience is, in fact, the application of our actions to this law, ”Immanuel Kant once said. But when did people have a sense of conscience? An example from the Bible clearly shows that it did not appear among the first people of mankind. Cain killed the godly Abel. This was the first murder on Earth. Despite the fact that Cain deserved a death sentence for the crime he committed, the compassionate Creator spared him and gave him the opportunity to repent. But Cain only hardened his heart more and more. Inciting to rebellion against Divine authority, he became the ancestor of impudent, dissolute sinners. This apostate, led by Satan, seduced others as well. His example and influence had such a strong corrupting effect that the earth was corrupted and filled with violence to such an extent that it cried out for destruction. There is not even a hint of any remorse of Cain's conscience.

Remorse, pangs of conscience, remorse, regret, torment, torment, suffering, emotional experiences about feelings of guilt - this is the lot of people opposite to Cain's consciousness. Those who have the Co-Knowledge of the High Purpose of Man. Such people will not even jokingly say: “ We have freedom of conscience: if you want, have a conscience - if you want, don't have"(Andrey Knyshev).

Teresa of Avila, a Spanish Carmelite nun, Catholic saint, author of mystical works, suffered greatly from remorse for her past, young life. She wrote: « So, from scattering to scattering, from vanity to vanity, from sin to sin, I reached the point that I was ashamed to turn to God with prayer: I felt so unworthy that, under the pretext of humility, I was afraid to pray ... Conscience denounced me, and confessors justified ... Poor my soul! When I remember how she was deprived of all help, freely indulging in entertainment and pleasures that were considered permissible, I cannot help but feel sorry for myself.» ... But a pang of conscience helped her become the one that all of humanity worships. " Better to break than bend ", - she felt and was faithful to this for the rest of her life.

Personally, I also had to suffer from remorse. For over twenty years she worked as a historian at school. How much untruth I have brought into the minds of my students by adhering to the school curriculum! And I received such knowledge at the institute. I read thousands of books so that my lessons were interesting, so that every paragraph of the history textbook could be viewed widely. She was considered a good teacher. And she herself began to consider herself that way, retiring, until she discovered the "Secret Doctrine" by E.P. Blavatsky. I read it, and I felt scared - how scanty my knowledge was, and even those “went to the wrong steppe” ... I plunged headlong into the Teaching of Life. I shoveled all the books of Living Ethics and those accompanying it. I was tormented by pangs of conscience for giving the students completely wrong knowledge. But they loved me and believed my every word !!! Out of the thousands of children I had to teach for a total of 30 years, only one kid from the tenth grade did not take everything on faith, had his own opinion and could ask questions that I was not able to answer intelligibly. But then I had nowhere to get knowledge that I could apply in conversations with him ...

The moment came when I could not help but appeal to my former students with my apologies and a desire to tell them the truth. I was looking for a way out, and it was found. I went to the radio committee and asked to give me the opportunity to read several lectures for 20 minutes. But at the radio committee, I met a person who was a little familiar with Living Ethics, and he offered to prepare talks based on my lectures. Thus, a cycle of conversations on history with the application of the Teaching of Life was born. Conversations in the form of interviews attracted the interest of many. And I immediately informed several of my former students about the radio programs, about whom I knew that they care. We managed to conduct two TV programs with my participation, but on television we did not manage to develop Live Ethics. They said that demands from all faiths and confessions immediately poured in - to make programs about them, and not about the "rogue", as the ill-wishers called us. But my conscience calmed down a little. Only the soul did not stop hurting - after all, today children are being hammered in the wrong knowledge that they need, and I cannot do anything about it, although I am not silent. Will today's school teachers experience something similar to my remorse when they realize that they taught their children the wrong thing and the wrong way ?!

"I Free You From the Chimera Called Conscience"- said Adolf Hitler. What did he mean? Mass extermination of Jews and Slavs? Rivers of blood of innocent people? The bombing of peaceful cities and villages, where did he come as a conqueror? In relationships between loved ones, encouraging in your own words all sorts of meanness, betrayal, hypocrisy and the like? It seems to me - everything! But only in relation to others! Not to yourself !!! He adored himself and demanded honor, conscience, decency.

"The whole power of a moral conscience lies in the realization of the evil done" - Denis Diderot said at one time. Did Hitler, even before his death, realize the greatest evil he had done against humanity ?!

In contrast to the example with Hitler, the example of Stalin is the opposite. I recently saw an article on the Internet “The cruel truth about the execution of Kosmodemyanskaya. Stalin's brutal whim? "(Based on materials from the site svpressa.ru). It says, I quote: "SP" published an article "The Truth About Zoya Kosmodemyanskaya", in which information was made public that the young heroine had never been a partisan, but was a Red Army soldier of the sabotage and reconnaissance brigade of Arthur Sprogis. On the night of November 27-28, 1941, in the village of Petrishchevo, she set fire to a residential building where the fascist staff officers were stationed, and a field point of radio and radio-technical intelligence disguised as a stable. For which she was subjected to brutal abuse, and then hanged.

The article briefly quoted the secret order of the GKO Headquarters No. 0428 of November 17, 1941, in accordance with which the soldiers of Sprogis were acting: all rooms and warm shelters and make it freeze in the open ... Destroy and burn to ashes all settlements in the rear of the German troops at a distance of 40 - 60 km in depth from the forward edge and 20 - 30 km to the right and left of the roads... To destroy settlements within the specified radius of action, immediately abandon aviation, widely use artillery and mortar fire, teams of scouts, skiers and sabotage groups supplied with Molotov cocktails, grenades and subversive means. With the forced withdrawal of our units ... to take away the Soviet population and it is imperative to destroy all settlements without exception so that the enemy cannot use them. "

The order is cruel. But can Stalin be accused of a crime for this order? I quote further: “You need to have a good idea of ​​the environment in which this order was signed. The balance of forces near Moscow turned out to be far from in our favor: as of September 30, the Nazis had here about 2 million bayonets, 14 thousand guns and mortars, 1,700 tanks, 1,390 aircraft. We must not forget that the united troops of all Europe rushed to Moscow: Italian and Romanian divisions, four Hungarian brigades, which were supported by the 4th Air Fleet and Romanian aviation. In addition, as of October 1941, the 250th Infantry Division of Spanish Volunteers (18 thousand people), the 638th Infantry Regiment of French Volunteers, as well as Belgian, Swedish, Croatian military formations were formed in the Wehrmacht.

By that time, 1 million 250 thousand soldiers, 7,600 guns and mortars, 990 tanks, 660 aircraft were concentrated on all fronts of the Moscow direction. That is, the united forces of Europe had a significant advantage. To defeat them, extraordinary measures were needed. I would even say: measures unprecedented in history. Not a single country was capable of such. Let's remember that Europe surrendered almost without a fight and easily integrated into fascism. "

Let's remember, too, but - the war with Napoleon, Moscow was not burned by the French! The Russians burned it! Stalin followed the example of the patriotic Muscovites, because - I quote: “We must also not forget that the Nazis waged war in Russia differently than in Europe. Here they acted to destroy an entire nation. The loss of statehood in this case would be accompanied by the death of almost the entire population. Therefore, the "humanity of Stalin" (to the fascists; my deputy) in such a situation, if he had manifested it, undoubtedly, it would have resulted in immeasurably great sacrifices and losses "(Soviet people; my deputy). Near Moscow was the question of the life and death of the state. The Nazis were stronger, and at any cost it was necessary to cut their supply lines, deprive them of more or less comfortable housing and rest. Such tasks were set by the order. It is not known how the bloodiest battle of the Second World War would have ended if the Nazis were given full opportunity to rest in heated village huts and feed themselves with collective farm grubs. In addition, many soldiers of the Sprogis brigade blew up and set fire to only those huts where the fascists were quartered and the headquarters were located. "

Did Stalin suffer from remorse when destroying these settlements in the Moscow region? No! He saved the Motherland!

In our today's difficult time, the souls of millions of people are brightly revealed. Many people understand that their conscience is a consciousness and a sense of moral responsibility for their behavior, serving as a guide in the choice of actions and a source of a line of life behavior. And they make a choice according to their vision of life situations, both their own and those of the state.