Whether a person can be himself means. What does it mean to be yourself? Exercises to be yourself
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Please treat this article as an opinion.
I do not consider my opinion about what it means to be yourself to be the ultimate truth and, nevertheless, I have something to say about it. I hope the article will not turn out to be overly philosophical and will not bore you, Reader.
So, what does it mean to be yourself?
Does this mean being natural and relaxed?
Or does it mean being special, not being afraid to be different from others, not trying to hide your individuality?
Or maybe this means that there is no need to invent anything, the person already does everything well?
Probably, all these assumptions only partially reflect the essence.
To be yourself means to be equal to yourself, correspond to the reality of oneself that has developed. Be who you are, and don't try to be someone else. This means that you should not remake yourself, reshape yourself. This means that whatever person already exists, he is good.
For example, if I want to sleep, and I pretend to be cheerful and cheerful, then I do not correspond to myself at this moment. And those around me, most likely, will not believe in my cheerfulness, because small details in my behavior will most likely give me away. Perhaps your eyes will begin to close from time to time or your voice will become sluggish.
But if I don’t pretend to be cheerful and active and allow myself to be lethargic and apathetic, then they will believe me, because my external manifestations will correspond to my internal state. I will be myself, the external will be equal to the internal.
To be yourself means to accept yourself as you are. With their own characteristics, conditions, feelings, character traits, mistakes, unpleasant experiences, failures, achievements. This means using what is given; what is.
When a person’s external manifestations are equal to his internal ones, then he does not have to spend a lot of energy on self-control, he does not need to worry about how he moves, how he behaves, how he needs to behave further in order to correspond to the created image. And there is more energy left for activity, creativity, development.
We stop being ourselves because of fears and anxiety when we have to go through periods of crisis. When we get used to meeting the expectations of others, and we forget about what we really like and what we really want. Or we begin to consider it nonsense.
Therefore, in order to become himself, the way a person could be if not for... (upbringing, fears, limiting beliefs, if he didn’t consider what he likes stupid, and so on), you need to take a closer look at yourself, listen, observe. Perhaps you will notice something that you didn’t notice before.
Observation must be positive; there is no need to scold yourself, even if you notice something unpleasant.
I want to offer you several exercises so that you can get to know yourself better.
- List 25 activities that you enjoy. For example: eating ice cream, reading an interesting book, wandering through the rustling leaves in autumn, singing loudly.
- List 10 smells that you like. For example: the smell of freshly brewed coffee, the smell of fresh newspaper, the aroma of peonies...
- List your 5 favorite poses (the ones you do most often). For example: I often stand with my arms crossed on my chest; I sit with my right leg tucked under me; I listen, tilting my head to the left...
- List 5 people you know with whom you feel most comfortable communicating. Why do you think?
- Write a fairy tale about some animal. Your text should answer the following questions: what kind of animal is this? Where does it live and with whom? What does it like to do? What doesn't it like to do? What does it eat? Does he have friends? Does he have any enemies? What is his deepest dream?
After you write the text, replace the references to this animal with the pronouns “I”, “me”, “with me” and read the fairy tale. In the end, the fairy tale will turn out to be about you. Whatever we do, our personality is always reflected in it. Usually, when a person writes such a fairy tale, he puts into the hero the meanings, experiences and sensations that he himself lives with.
These exercises will help you take a closer look at yourself, observe yourself and become more aware. Perhaps as a result of doing these exercises you will understand or remember something about yourself, and your ideas about yourself will become fuller and clearer. Good luck to you.
Hear yourself. Courage to express yourself. Find yourself.
The scariest, most interesting and most exciting thing in your life is to be yourself (Anya Sklyar)
First of all, you need to learn to perceive yourself as you are. You are the only one, unique, there are no others like you.
The problem is not so much being yourself, but becoming yourself. No one can stop us from being ourselves if we have truly found ourselves.
The desire to be yourself
Jacques Lacan argues that the only thing we should really feel guilty about is the rejection of our desires, “moral cowardice.” The point, of course, is not that any of our whims must be immediately satisfied. And certainly not about criminal tendencies or perversions. He speaks of the vital force that can fill our existence. For example, the thirst to write or draw, which motivates poets and artists to create, despite poverty and hunger. This is our desire to be independent, to choose our own path in life, to manage our time, to be close to those we love - no matter what others think about this.
If I am like everyone else, then who will be like me?
In this society of madmen, among anger and aggression, resentment and misunderstanding...
Stay sunshine.
Then other suns will find you :)
Anya Sklyar
You would understand how bright and beautiful you are if you saw yourself in those moments when you are truly happy.
Alfred Langley.
If you are like everyone else, then why be? Han Xiangzi
You cannot, day after day, act contrary to what you feel without health consequences;
crucify yourself in front of what you don’t like, rejoice in what brings misfortune.
Our nervous system is not an empty phrase, not a fiction. She is a physical body made of fibers.
Our soul takes up space and fits into us like teeth in our mouth.
She cannot be raped endlessly with impunity.
Boris Pasternak, Doctor Zhivago
By adapting to others, you are betraying yourself.
You should do what makes you happy.
Forget about money or other traps that are considered success.
If you're happy working in a village store, work.
You only have one life.
The power is in you! There is no such person in whom there would be less of it than in another; you just need to be aware of it.
It's like air: it's always there, but the inhalation depends on you. Or like electricity: it is ready to use, but installation and operation is up to you. So it is with inner strength: it is here for you, but until you “connect” and ignite it, it is passive.
Believe in what you are doing! Bring warmth.
Freeing the inner child:
You are a miracle! And your life is wonderful!
Every human being is an infinity of miracles.
Eyes that see thousands of colors, shapes and shapes;
Ears that hear the flight of a bee and the sound of thunder;
A brain that can weigh a speck of dust as easily as the entire cosmos;
A heart that beats in the same rhythm as the hearts of all living...
Thich Nan Han
I am who I am
How to distinguish a true sense of self-worth from a false one? - asked the students of Khoja Nasreddin.
“Imagine a caravan of camels walking through the desert,” Nasreddin suggested. Who do you feel like?
- The first camel! - one of the students exclaimed.
“The tail of the last one,” said the other.
“The merciless sun,” said the third.
“A driver,” said the fourth.
“A dune,” suggested the fifth.
“Allah, who created the desert and the caravan,” said the sixth.
“I am I,” said the seventh student, “and what does camels have to do with it?!”
We often look for love and warmth in others, but all they can give us is a reflection of our own attitude towards ourselves.
Therefore, in order to move forward, we first need to improve the most important of relationships - the relationship with ourselves.
Exercise Who Am I?
This exercise seems quite simple at first glance. Ask yourself: “Who am I?” Let's say you answered: "Woman." Take off this role like a snake takes off its skin. Ask again: “Who am I?” Further answers can be anything: brunette, Muscovite, driver, mother, daughter, sister, employee... The main thing will begin when the answers end, when you realize that you don’t know how to answer this question. Sit in silence and think. At this moment you have a chance to meet your liberated self.
The mission of human life is to know oneself, not to satisfy one's senses. Only those who make self-knowledge can truly reap the benefits of human life, not those who lead a refined human existence. Animals know nothing but sensual pleasures, reduced to the formula: eat, drink and enjoy. But life is given to man in order to achieve self-knowledge and return home, to God.
Srimad-Bhagavatam ---
Walt Disney was fired from the newspaper for lack of ideas, Mendeleev had a C in chemistry, Einstein did not speak until he was four years old, his teacher characterized him as a mentally retarded person. Remember this when you feel like you can't do anything.
I look at the sky and drown in the stars.
I look into the distance and dissolve in time.
I look inside myself and fall through.
I love being myself. This is amazing.
I'll build a world for myself,
I will live in it as I want...
Whatever you do, you do it yourself.
Eastern wisdom
It's never too late to have a happy childhood.
Some people are born to sit by the river. Some are struck by lightning. Someone has an ear for music. Some are artists. Some swim. Some people know a lot about buttons. Some people know Shakespeare. Some mothers. And some dance. We are all different, and that's wonderful.
F.S. Fitzgerald
Paulo Coelho
Whenever there is an alternative, choose what makes the cat in your heart purr...
Be yourself - the world worships originals.
I have a large and spreading Tree. It is beautiful and its leaves never fall. This Tree is my inner World. Every person has such a tree, and they all make up a dense and endless forest. But I come exactly to my own. Here I can sit down and think, take a breather after the hustle and bustle of everyday life, and even sleep. A fluffy cat will come to me if I want the company of animals. Or I will leave an unread book at its roots. Or any other thing that I want to hide from everyone except myself.
And just let someone try to break this rule: repaint the leaves green when mine were yellow... bring a dog who will drive away the cat I love, because “dogs are cooler”... take any of my things, because that this is in a “common refrigerator”, and in general, in a “shared apartment”.
No one has the right to demand to change the life of someone else’s Tree, just as you will not tolerate interference in the life of your own. Having disturbed the peace and life of someone’s garden, be prepared for the fact that his gardener will throw you out and close the gate to it.
The greatest thing in the world is to be able to belong to yourself.
Freedom opens up to a person at the moment when he does not care what impression he makes or should make.
That’s for sure: no matter how hard you try, you will never please everyone. Therefore, it is always important to listen to your own heart - to know what is important to you.
The problem is not that we will all die. The problem is that while we are alive they are trying to kill us.
Be yourself
and you will find someone who has been looking for you for a long time.
The hand of the Lord has always led the one who follows his path with Faith in Himself. Paulo Coelho
Don't imitate others. Find yourself and be yourself.
If you want to cry - cry, if you want to scream - scream, if you want to laugh - laugh. Just love - and first of all, love the soul in yourself. Then she will definitely attract a relative... Elchin Safarli. Love from the bottom of the Bosphorus.
A balanced person lives in harmony, peace, joy, health, prosperity; she is not suffering. The more a person suffers, the more he has forgotten who he truly is.
There is only one way to succeed - learn to live your own way.
Be yourself. The greatest religion is simply being who you are. Trust Yourself.
You need to listen to the voice of the child you once were and who still exists somewhere inside you. If we listen to the child within us, our eyes will regain their sparkle. If we do not lose touch with this child, our connection with life will not be severed. Gabriel Garcia Marquez
The main thing is don’t go astray and don’t give up.
Where you feel love and inspiration, you can't go wrong.
Everything you do should express you, should bear the imprint of your individuality. Then life becomes a constant holiday. Do everything creatively, turn the worst into the best - that's what I call "Art". Live your life, filling every moment and every period with beauty, love, joy.
Freedom is not in many directions.
It is the ability to do the little that your Spirit wants.
In order to hear the heart, you need to calm your thoughts.
Not to think, but to feel, not to evaluate, but to appreciate.
Living means not only changing, but also remaining yourself. Gaston Leroux
With any role comes fatigue. Be real. Be awkward, inappropriate, awkward, unfashionable and not modern, and delightfully unique at the same time.
Because there is one unconscious approach, one key mistake, one unconscious thought. Here it is: I am not enough. It is followed by another unconscious thought: in order to get everything I need, to fully be myself, I need to play some kind of role. To be more, I need to have more. But you cannot be more than you are, because under your physical and psychological form you are already one with Life, one with Existence. Eckhart Tolle
Sometimes you just need to take a break, get some air and remind yourself who you are and who you want to be.
Be like a lotus that is always pure and blooms even in muddy water.
Heaven is where the flowers of your true Self bloom.
Hell is where your Self is trampled, and something is forced on you.
When you are not afraid to live the way you want, there is little that can upset or frighten you. The only thing that matters is freedom. Freedom to be yourself.
Our problem is that we take ourselves too seriously.
As soon as you go your way,
All the treasures of the world will be revealed to you.
If the Path "has a heart"
You will feel it in your gut.
Those people deserve respect who, regardless of the situation, time and place, remain the same as they really are.
Live your life and let others live theirs.
Let everyone have the freedom to do their own thing.
You are what you are—neither good nor bad, neither “clean” nor “dirty,” neither “light” nor “dark.” You are the receptacle of what you know about good and bad, about “clean” and “dirty,” about “light” and “dark.”
The main thing in life is to grab yours on time :)
YOU ARE ON THE RIGHT WAY!
Confirming that you are on the right path is very simple: your tension will begin to disappear, you will become more and more calm, you will become more and more equanimous, you will find beauty in something that was never seen as beautiful before.
The smallest things will become of great importance. The whole world will become more and more mysterious every day; you will become more and more innocent - just like a child chasing a butterfly, or collecting sea pebbles on the shore.
You will feel that life is not a problem, but a gift, like a bliss, like a blessing.
If you are on the right path, there will be more and more evidence of it.
If you are on the wrong path, the opposite will happen.
You are boundless, like the ocean, boundless, like the sky.
The only treasure worth seeking is your own nature.
If you go deep within yourself, a real adventure awaits you.
As soon as your decision, a thoughtful, conscious decision becomes: “No matter what happens, I must find myself, my nature, my essence. I don’t intend to lose this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity,” once such a decision is made and your energy flows in that direction, failure becomes impossible. Not a single person has failed along this path. Whoever directs all his energy to inner search, he always finds himself.
There are three things that most people are afraid of - trusting, telling the truth, and being yourself.
Don't be a copy, you are the original.
Who will comprehend his true self,
all the secrets of the Universe will be revealed to him
and the secrets of the Universe.
All the answers are within you.
You know more than what is written in the books.
look within, listen to yourself and trust yourself.
Many do not see that we live in a web of miracles, connected by silver threads of chance and circumstance.
We are born with whirlwinds, fires and comets within us.
People go on trips to marvel at the beauty of high mountains, huge ocean waves, and the bends of long rivers, the sound of the sea surf, the movement of stars in the night sky. But they pass by themselves without any surprise.
When you start doing what you like, the world changes!
If you bring something to the relationship, do it for real. And never, not for a single moment, give up your true Self. And if your true Self is not attractive enough to keep someone in your life, then let them leave. Because those for whom your true Self will be quite attractive will come into your life.... Neale Donald Walsh.
If you follow in other people's footsteps, your traces will not be visible
If we listened to our mind, we would never have a love relationship. We would never have had a friendship. We would never do this, because we would be cynical: “Something wrong is happening” or: “She will leave me” or: “I’ve already been burned once, and therefore...” This is stupidity. This way you can miss your whole life. Each time you need to jump off a cliff and grow wings on the way down. Ray Bradbury
It's better to be strange and happy in your own way than to live your life like a limp vegetable. Zach Galifianakis.
What goes away, let it go.
Whatever comes, let it come.
You have nothing and never had anything except yourself.
I have met many people who had no clothes.
But I also came across a lot of clothes that didn’t have people inside them.
Be your own light.
You only need one thing - to be natural,
as natural as your breathing.
Love your life.
Don't live according to any commandments.
Don't live according to other people's ideas.
Don't live the way people demand of you.
Listen to your own heart.
Become silent, listen to the small, weak voice inside you and follow it...
OSHO
When you live in harmony with yourself, you are able to get along with others.
Eastern wisdom -
If there is no one nearby, then it’s time to get to know yourself.
Escaping from yourself is like escaping from heaven. You can build walls, block yourself with a ceiling, but it will remain there just as it was above your head. It’s the same in games with your own soul: you can grow any illusions, break all the mirrors, but your face will still remain the same. Unless a cut appears on him from a stray fragment, and in his eyes there is a fog of escape from reality. How we love to find the complex in what is essentially simple. To run away from yourself, carrying your cruelly and evilly laughing reflection on your tired shoulders, to look for at least some way, going all the way up and down, and with your steps paving a new road, to be offendedly silent when the world is only a couple of words, or to talk endlessly and emptyly when silence is so valuable. And after weighing all the pros and cons, I turn on the music of my soul at full volume and choose life on the verge of dancing. And let tomorrow I make a bunch of mistakes, sin shamelessly, let my heart tremble with horror and delight, let love greedily roar in a predatory leap, let sadness rebel like a hurricane wind in my face... But above my head there will be that sky from which I don’t want run.
Al Quotion
By listening to other people's opinions about you, you can only learn who these people are, but not who you yourself are.
But if you want to know yourself, try to tell about others, and be sure: everything you see in people is a reflection of your true essence.
We all need to give everyone around us the opportunity to be themselves. We should not stop people from marching to the beat of their own music, we should allow them not to be afraid to be with us, remaining themselves. This is unconditional love - the talent to encourage and support the love, passions and dreams of another person, even if you yourself do not share them.
Robin Sharma
You know everything. You always knew everything. But you will go halfway around the world. You will read hundreds of books. You will change dozens of teachers. And only then will you understand that you don’t need to go anywhere, that all the books are about one thing and there is also one teacher and He is inside you...
You must change in yourself what you want to see in a changed world.
You can spend eternity searching for truth and love, understanding and kindness, begging God and people to help you, and all in vain. You must start with yourself. This is an inexorable law. You can't change the reflection without changing the face.
Nisargadatta Maharaj
Imagine this: a patient comes to the doctor and complains of pain. And the doctor answers him: “Okay, I understand everything. Do you know what I'll do? I will prescribe medicine for your neighbor.” “Thank you,” the patient rejoices, “this is exactly what will cure me.” Absurd? But that's how we all behave. It always seems to the sleeper that his life will become much easier if those around him change in one direction or another. You suffer only because you are asleep; and yet you think: “How great it would be if that person became different, if my neighbor, boss, wife suddenly changed.”
We want the people around us to change - then, they say, everything will work out for us. But have you thought about how changes in the character of your husband or wife would benefit you? You will remain as vulnerable as before - and the same idiot; you continue to sleep. If anyone needs to change, it should be you first. And you need treatment too. “I’m fine because everything is fine with the world,” you claim. You are wrong! All is well with the world because all is well with me. That's what the initiates say.
Anthony de Mello
Correct your shortcomings and become like everyone else. If you enhance your strengths, you will be unique.
Eckart von Hirschhausen "Carousel of Happiness"
Have your own opinion. It is difficult to maintain and demanding, but it is worth it.
Remember: if you do what you want yourself, at least one person will be completely satisfied!
By being yourself, you unknowingly inspire others to be themselves.
The whole world is inside a person - outside is only his reflection.
Nothing leads to rapid degradation more than an excessive desire for perfection.
We often face despair that comes from the inability to make a choice or unwillingness to be ourselves; but the deepest despair comes when a person chooses “to not be himself, to be different.” Carl Rogers
We are literally afraid of ourselves - of who we really are. We are afraid of our own light, afraid of our own brilliance, afraid of our own highest potential. We are afraid to stand up, straighten up to our full height and allow our inner light to illuminate the whole world. For the greatest gift always comes with the greatest responsibility. It seems to me that most people don't want to see their talents because they don't want to take responsibility - the responsibility of living a fearless life and making a difference in this world. And because of this they betray their greatness. Robin Sharma
The rose meets its essence in the lily, and the lily in the rose, but they also know and honor their own uniqueness and irreplaceability, their temporary flowering in time and space. Be the essence, and love your bloom. Love your taste, your unique flavor, your special dance that cannot be reproduced by others. Never feel superior or inferior to another blossom, do not seek the destruction of your blossoming.As you forge your own path to the light, never look for someone to blame if others begin to bloom more luxuriantly. Flowering is a delightful, uncontrollable process. Jeff Foster
You know much more than you think, but for some reason you don’t trust your inner knowledge.
The mistake that ninety-nine percent of humanity made was... that people were ashamed to be themselves and lied, impersonating others.
We are all unique. Never ask anyone what is right and what is wrong. Life is an experiment to find out what is right and what is wrong. Sometimes you may do something wrong, but it will give you relevant experience from which you will immediately benefit.
Every action leads to an immediate result. Just be alert and watch. A mature person is one who has observed himself and found what is right and wrong for him; what is good and what is bad. And thanks to the fact that he found it himself, he has enormous authority: even if the whole World says something different, nothing will change for him. He has his own experience to draw on, and that's enough. Osho The only thing you need to know is who you really are. And it's all. Everything else will happen on its own. Meeting yourself is one of the most amazing things.
Not everyone can always be themselves. This happens because his inner harmony disappears. It’s good when he can be different and is not shy to show all his strengths and weaknesses. You should always live only your own life, and not try to be like others. Everyone has shortcomings and you need to be able to accept them. But it’s very bad to constantly think about them and do nothing. Every person should be able to get along with himself; this is the only way to achieve inner harmony.
Characteristics of a person who has become himself
There is an opinion that “you have to be yourself.” After all, it’s not possible to be “yourself” everywhere. How can he be himself in this case? And what is the right thing to choose (do you always have to be yourself) and why when they talk about confidence they say - be yourself (and what if he ruins everything)? I read your text and assume that for you, being yourself means “not holding back” in your manifestations, saying and doing without filtering. This is sometimes true and sometimes not. But then uncertainty arises, and it is much more alarming than in the scheme - you never know who will throw something out.
Harmony with yourself and the world around you. The person is always calm and balanced. Such people do what they like, this is where awareness of actions is manifested. Therefore, you should feel like a child and plunge into pleasant memories, again taste the beauty of life. Start exploring yourself, getting to the bottom of your “I”, discarding everything unnecessary. Find yourself through your favorite thing, activity.
There has always been, is and will be a lot of good, bright, genuine in the world and there has always been, is and will be, for the sake of what and for whom to live - whoever needs it will find it! If he loses himself and does not follow the call of his soul, it is most likely not because of someone’s cruelty (even when it really exists), but because of his own passivity, inertia, laziness and fear. Only even in this crazy world, each of us chooses what we want to believe in, what we want to live by, and what we want to fight for. For a person who wants to master the mysterious art of being himself, this should already be enough. Returned to your nature, became yourself again, because if your loved ones are not in this world, then you cannot be in this world either... That is why you found each other, pulled each other out of the ground!.. He just needs to BE, like that, what he is. And this is a great happiness for everyone who comes into contact with him.
This life was disgusting to him, he saw its hypocrisy. He didn’t like them very much, but they immediately explained that he was related to them, and the difference was only in a small nuance: his slogan was “Be yourself,” and theirs was “Be happy with yourself.” But a scarf is just a scarf. Of course, it has different properties, I would like it to be beautiful and of high quality, but you don’t need to pay attention to the external to the same extent. As soon as a person who has set his goal to “be himself” begins to “be satisfied with himself,” this is already the path to the abyss.
Since you are here...
We are convinced that it is impossible to preach Christ for money. Not much for a family budget.
I think it is at this moment that it becomes easy to be yourself, because there is nothing left to lose. Yes, being yourself is not always good either. When communicating, I don’t hide anything, I can tell absolutely everything about myself. I am a person who has no limitations. I never really feel good. There is always a feeling that something is wrong, something is missing. This is perhaps my first post in a long time that is remotely close to what I actually wanted to say!
To be youreself. But if you are not you, then who? And who made you someone else? And if you feel that you are not you, then this is already half the success. Only you. As it is. To do this you need to stop chasing endless desires.
A genius sleeps within each of us, but every day it grows stronger. They somehow already know what you really want to do. Everything else is secondary.
One and the same person can be different, this is natural and obligatory. Who am I really? - a question about something other than the desire to “be yourself.” For a person living in the past, “being yourself” means being who he used to be in the usual way, that is, this is the desire to remain in the comfort zone. You can and should be yourself if you have something to be proud of in yourself. And if not, you need to change, and not croak: I’m such a sincere bastard. It doesn't happen! As a result, individuality is lost, and this is not good in any case.
It turns out that you are in vain playing some role in front of people; they may not appreciate it. Thirdly, remember that you live for yourself, to enjoy the world, and not to meet someone else's expectations. Then there will be no need to pretend to be someone. Then you will have more opportunity to be yourself, and not act as others or circumstances require.
Why always? It always means not only some severe stressful situations that immediately come to mind... Although, of course, these too. “Always” means - really always. Always really means always.
We need to be who we are. And not to tremble. But there is a second point, very important. Because talent in a person is a manifestation of God. And God - the energy of absolute love emanates from him - it is given to everyone, not just to us. Therefore, what is given to us, we must give to others.
This is also impossible because it is temporary and it has its own opposite, which will remind itself in the near future. And it is a fact that when everything is good, then a person is more likely to remain inactive. And what kind of self-love can we talk about when we are not satisfied with ourselves and measure personal happiness and family happiness only by other examples? To be in oneself is to be in a state of oneself, one’s own presence. We even always talk to ourselves. We just need someone, an interlocutor, so that we don’t go completely crazy, as it seems to us.
Loving yourself as you are” and “Being in harmony with yourself” are the same thing, but this leads us to the fact that we must follow our understanding at the moment. But I don’t do all of this “from the heart”... Yes, maybe for the most part I do it with pleasure, but not always! Become a better person? Is your understanding of the BEST and how others understand it “better” always the same thing? Here's the question... Are you the fact that your mood is an integral part of your “you”?
I have often heard from many people that you should always remain yourself, and not try to pretend to be someone you really are not. For example: when we are in pain, a person should not smile and say that everything is fine. But, as a rule, you realize everything only after time has passed, the main thing is not to be late. They began to avoid communicating with me. They only want to see me when they need something from me. And I’m being fooled only because if I show pride/sense of self.
The rules of etiquette are based on basic respect for oneself and others, the belief that we can all live in harmony, and everyone is expected to treat others politely.
10. Exercises to be yourself
Answer honestly - why is it difficult for you to be yourself? Because you are trying to please others! There are exercises on how to become yourself and not depend on the opinions of others.
You need to pay attention to external similarities, the same character traits, any life situations, be it work, family, personal life, or anything else you can think of that can be compared. Then, in the same written form, tell us whether you would like to actually meet this person, yes or no, and why. The purpose of this exercise is the same - to understand yourself better.
To take off the mask and be yourself, you need to better understand your inner selves, learn to distinguish between real, innate emotions and feelings from false ones learned in childhood.
There is no need to be ashamed of downturns, they are part of progress, you need to be prepared for them.
Working on yourself is another good piece of advice. Just reading articles and books on this issue is not enough; you need to work tirelessly on your own emotional and internal state. These recommendations will help you solve the problem of how to become yourself. But there are also practical exercises that we will consider.
How to become yourself? This is a vital question.
I did not come into the world to write poetry, to preach, to paint pictures, neither I nor anyone else came into the world for this. Everything worked out only along the way. The true calling of everyone consists of only one thing - to come to oneself. Whatever he ultimately becomes - a poet, a madman or a prophet - it is none of his business and ultimately unimportant. The truth in us says - Be who you are, but don’t be who you want to appear. Don't believe anything, no matter where you read it, or who said it, even if I said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.
Terrible point, 13th! And yet this is the most effective way to be yourself. I’m not saying this because I run the oratory club Speaker Club every Saturday.
When these calm meditations, during which they try to dissolve somewhere in some light... And enjoy, they say, everyone else leave me alone. This is spiritual egoism. Always serve, always help others, always give what we are given to others. In order to help someone.
I'm sure every person has asked themselves this at least once. And every person strives to be himself. Even if unknowingly. To be yourself means to understand and love yourself as you are at a given moment in time. And these words are no longer perceived so painfully by us. To be yourself is to be a holistic, harmonious person.
That is, it may be accidental, but he will repent of it, ask God for forgiveness, he will know that this is not what should be done. So it turns out that in order to truly be yourself, you need to drive out evil from yourself. And for this, the main thing is to put an end to hypocrisy.
To be yourself means to feel comfort and harmony within yourself, to live and behave naturally, without tension. A person is not obliged to meet someone else's requirements and expectations. But it is completely normal to be responsible at work and relaxed in the company of friends and on vacation. Self-improvement can temporarily take a person out of a comfortable state; such a period, as a rule, is accompanied by the integration of something new into a person’s life and his consciousness. But after a certain time, such changes are accepted by a person and seamlessly harmonize with his personality.
Very often a person living in the past feels comfortable in the way he was before. And in this case, being yourself means using only familiar methods, not trying new things, and avoiding risks. It is necessary for the human personality to move energetically towards its goal. In fact, a person is a collection of individuals who manifest themselves in turn. Here it is advisable to talk about such concepts as the inner voice, behavior under various conditions, conscious and unconscious. It is completely normal when a person knows how to be different and relies on his various qualities in a given situation.
Only sincere expression of one’s emotions and feelings helps a person feel like himself. Don't be afraid to open your heart and soul, otherwise it will be impossible to feel all the colors of life. Each person is unique, it is in this sense that you need to be proud of yourself and remain with your own opinion. Live your own life, not someone else’s, mind your own business and realize your creative abilities. A self-sufficient person cannot be manipulated; he does everything from the heart. He gives out of the abundance of love in his heart, and not in order to take advantage of others and fill his emptiness.
Many wonderful things begin to happen in the life of a person who has the courage to speak the truth, be himself and live in the present. Such a person is free from worries, excuses and other people's opinions. He has good health and strong immunity, love for himself and the people around him, he feels peace of mind and gratitude in his heart.
It is impossible to please everyone; trying to please people, a person loses himself, his personality, his charisma. This is a completely pointless activity that leads to self-doubt. It is also impossible to find your path and your happiness by trying to be someone else. After all, every person has shortcomings and this is quite normal. Another thing is that it is not normal to constantly think about them. Learn to talk about your shortcomings and accept them in yourself.
Every person needs inner harmony, and mental health and emotional mood depend on it. Learn to be at peace with yourself. Sometimes, in order to find the necessary harmony, a person needs to change something in his life: change his job, place of residence, partner, feelings for whom have long passed. And start your life from a new page, in a positive and joyful mood.
Throughout life, people make many choices, as a result of which they shape their life path. Only one’s own fears and inability to accept oneself and all one’s life decisions with love prevent a person from following his essence. A person who manifests himself is able to recognize his own essence and integrity in all its diversity. And a state of balance, a state of harmony within oneself, gives a person the opportunity to live with pleasure, contemplating this world, feeling peace and acceptance within oneself.
Just be yourself... It's time to remove that “just” from this sentence. There is nothing simple about being yourself, but you must do it, because
You can't find your happiness by trying to be someone else.. (website)
Below are 13 effective methods on how to become yourself:
1. What are you trying to hide?
Find what you are ashamed of. You can't be yourself when you're trying to hide part of yourself from prying eyes. Clearly define what you are ashamed of about yourself, and be prepared to speak openly about it. Being yourself means being willing to show yourself as you are, and not as you think others will accept you. Larry King immediately spoke about his shortcomings and this simplified his communication with any interlocutor. Often he didn't even have to do this, but being willing to talk about his shortcomings made him a better communicator and made his life a lot easier.
2. Three basic things to be proud of
Be sure to be proud of the basics: your first name, last name and job. If your name is Diarrhea Gavnov, change your name. If you work as a visiting proctologist in a reception center for homeless people, change your job. In cases far from these, be proud of yourself. Having flaws is normal, constantly thinking about them is not..
3. One day you are on a horse, the next day you are under a horse and vice versa
During the upswing, we want to think that it will always be like this, but then there is always a downturn. When we are at the bottom, we lower our self-esteem and cannot be ourselves. We are ashamed. There is no need to be ashamed of downturns, they are part of progress, you need to be prepared for them. The position should be something like this: “Yes, today I’m unemployed and have nowhere to live, but in general I’m awesome and it will soon be seen.”
4. Haste
If you are in a constant rush, you may forget who you really are. To rush means to place your habits and thoughts in the grip of time. You can't be yourself when you're in a hurry. Stop running, turn back and say to yourself who is running behind you, “Gotcha?!” Make stops when talking to people. Slow down the pace. The rule here is: The more you rush, the further you run away from yourself. If you are asked a question point blank: “You must make a decision right now. So yes or no"? The answer should always be “no”. No regrets. This is the price for happiness.
5. Life situations
Notice in what situations you are not yourself. A clear pattern will be visible very soon. The same people, places and circumstances cause tension and unusual behavior in you. Next time, give yourself permission to relax in these situations. Relaxation means returning to yourself. Learn not to tense up when you are stressed.
6. Your tongue
Don't speak in formal language. Keep it simple. Genius lies not in complicating a thought, but in expressing it as simply as possible. To be yourself means to stop dressing your thoughts in triple layers of thick words.
7. Listen, don't talk
Change the purpose of your conversations with people from “to speak and impress” to “to listen and understand.” In order not to create additional stress in yourself with the obligation to “understand,” always keep in mind the rule: Understanding does not mean agreeing.
8. Be curious
Ask questions, be interested in what you are talking about with the person. If you don't understand, be sure to ask what your interlocutor meant. Ask tough questions. Don't feel sorry for people, you think too much about them. Difficult questions, by the way, develop your environment. They will be grateful to you for them later. To be yourself means to be interested in the world.
9. Love yourself
Not in words, but in deeds. Give yourself favors that no one sees. Self-love should not be for show, but secret. Flowers are for show. Expensive underwear (this also applies to men, especially men) is a secret. Later, the secret will become clear, and you will decide to always be yourself, because that is exactly the way you adore yourself.
10. Exercises to be yourself
Answer honestly - why is it difficult for you to be yourself? Because you are trying to please others! You are captive of other people's opinions. There are exercises on how to become yourself and not depend on the opinions of others. One of the most effective is to sometimes intentionally take other people out of their comfort zone. They probably won't like it. This is “weight-bearing exercise.” Intentionally inducing negative feelings towards yourself is as far from “trying to please” as it can be, which means it is a powerful exercise in the journey towards yourself.
11. Look into the eyes
Learn to look people in the eye when you talk to them. Dogs can't do this. On an animal level, we are programmed to obey whoever holds our gaze longer. However, don't turn your conversations with people into a meeting between two boxers before a match. Don’t avoid looking, be prepared to “watch” until the end until you finish the thought. The escalator in the subway is a good place to practice initially.
12. Start writing your blog
The more frank, the better. The first frank posts will be painful for you. You will worry about what people think of you and want to fit in. There will be a temptation to hide in the middle of humanity and not stick out. But with each new article and with each critical comment addressed to you, you will worry less and less about other people’s opinions about yourself, and louder and louder, you will hear your own voice from within. You will also begin to become yourself because you will gain enormous knowledge of yourself while writing articles.
13. Speak in public regularly
Terrible point, 13th. And yet this is the most effective way to be yourself. I’m not saying this because I run the oratory club Speakerclub every Saturday. I opened the Speakers Club because I believe in it. By constantly speaking in front of an audience, you will not only improve yourself thanks to feedback from listeners from the audience, but you will accept yourself for who you are. The next step is to teach other people to accept you for who you are. Vanity, haste, panic will all pass. Being yourself will become your default state, which will bring you a lot of happiness and will be so irresistible to captivate those around you.
P.S. Read for tomorrow: “5 effective exercises on how to become yourself.”