Finnish men. Typical features of Finnish life that blow the roof off even experienced tourists The ratio of men and women in Finland

22.04.2022

Findings from the Largest Diet-Health Study by Colin Campbell and Thomas Campbell

Typical features of Finnish life that blow the roof off even experienced tourists The ratio of men and women in Finland

Every week we reveal more and more secrets to you. But not every foreigner can become your perfect match. You can easily get tired of the romanticism of a Frenchman, your head will start to hurt from the eccentricity of an Italian ... Finnish guys are another matter. These brave guys live in harsh conditions and are ready for anything. Perhaps this is exactly what you have been looking for all your life!

Finns are strong-willed, educated and cautious people. They have survived many wars and have been fighting harsh weather for centuries, so you should immediately understand that whiners do not belong in Finland. They have one word that has no translation into any language of the world - "sisu"(sisu). They often use this word in colloquial speech, and it means something like "Bang your head against the wall without breaking your forehead", that is, to be ready for any trials that life presents.

Finns are very slow. This is one of the most peaceful nations. Of course they know how to have fun, but Finnish man does not show his emotions openly, and it will be difficult for you to understand whether he likes you or not. But if he nevertheless made you an offer, you can rest assured that he will be with you to the end.

By the way, closeness is one of the biggest problems for Finnish men. They rarely make the first move on their own. I knew a girl who went for coffee with a Finnish guy for a year and did not understand why he did not invite her for a walk. And when she herself invited him, it turned out that he had long been in love with her. So go ahead!

Perhaps not the best way to relax a Finn, but the most effective. They like to drink, and they drink on a large scale and with soul. And at this moment he is ready for any madness, so in the center of Helsinki on Friday you can see a retro car full of drunk Finns in bath caps.

By the way, the bath has a special place in the heart of a Finnish man. They can sit in it for hours and silently reflect on life. So start slowly accustoming yourself to high temperatures so as not to collapse on the first date.

If the bath is not included in your plans in any way, there is another wonderful place where you can spend time with a Finn - this is a skating rink. They are great at skating. and you will be taught!

Surprise him and make famous Finnish pulla buns cinnamon! For the Finns, they are like croissants for the French.

By the way, the Finns are not so picky about food. They have their own traditional cuisine, but the city dwellers of Finland love thai food. She probably warms them well on frosty days.

What are Finnish men like? Four "subspecies" of Finnish men. Finnish men are most "sexy" between the ages of 20 and 40. A Finnish man will wash, iron, and clean the apartment. Every second Finnish man is either a hunter or a triathlete. What is so attractive about Finns?

What are Finnish men like? Very different: calm and jealous, beautiful and not very good, drinkers, stingy, generous, jokers, etc. As in all other countries, they are different.

Conventionally, the Finns can be divided into four ethnic groups: Savolaks, Karelians, Hämalai and Pohjalais.

Savolaks are humorists by nature, and any phrase in their conversation will have some kind of pun or joke in it.

Karelians are sensitive and frank, it is easy to cheer them up and make them laugh, and in moments of sadness they begin to sing or play songs.

The people of Hämäläy are so talkative that sometimes it becomes annoying.

Pohjalaians are clumsy, stubborn and very constrained.

One Finnish site that specializes in men's health conducted a survey among 3,200 women to find out their opinion of men in Finland. The survey revealed the following facts:

Approximately four out of ten men in Finland drink alcohol on a weekly basis.

Every tenth man in Finland drinks alcohol every day.

Seven out of ten worry about work and money the most, and one in five is chronically short of time.

Finnish men devote quite a lot of time to raising children, and it is very common to find a father walking with a child or playing sports with him. If a woman is prone to romance, then she will miss this in a relationship with a Finnish man. The Finns themselves joke that a Finnish man does not kiss and does not talk about love much. One Finnish woman said that on her wedding anniversary, after five years of marriage, she asked her husband if he loved her. To which he replied that when they got married, he told her about it, and if something changes, he will definitely notify her.

Another married couple with 30 years of married life was asked what is the secret to the strength of their union. To which they replied that a loan from a bank and a joint debt. It is much easier to pay for the house and other things together.

Once a Russian wife almost left her Finnish husband because of flowers. On her wedding anniversary, her husband brought her a bouquet of roses. However, the wife only recently moved to Finland, and all this time she was sitting at home with the child, and she did not go to language courses and rarely went to shops.

So she was unaware that bouquets in Finland are sold only with an even number of roses, for example, ten or six pieces. Of course, Finnish men are not familiar with the color code, so if red roses are not available, he can easily purchase yellow ones. However, the man did just that.

Later, the woman complained in tears that her husband did not understand her, as she interpreted a bouquet of 10 yellow roses like this: “Die already, I have another one.”

Compared to Eastern and Russian men, Finnish men flirt and compliment women much less. Flirting here in general can be very dangerous, especially at work. Finns have a much longer personal space than Russians, and if a resident of Russia can let a person close to him by about half a meter, then in Finland personal space is about a meter. If you come closer, the Finn will immediately begin to back away.

As a rule, Finns are rational, patient and calm. However, if the Finn still lost his temper, then even a shootout may begin. Finland is in second place in the world in terms of the number and availability of legalized firearms. Every second man in Finland is either a hunter, or a triathlete, or simply enjoys shooting. And in the Finnish newspapers very often there are reports of shootouts motivated by jealousy.

But what is so attractive about Finnish men?

The main quality that is most valuable in family life is reliability. As a rule, if a Finnish man says that he will do something, then it will be done just in time. Owning a home is a pride for a Finn, so any breakdown or malfunction is immediately. The Finns clean the snow in the yard themselves, they also mow the lawn and remove the leaves in the fall. Finns clearly know their duties around the house and even do some of the "women's" work.

Such qualities of Finnish men, of course, are very valuable.

In the modern world, a man is getting harder and harder. For centuries, the protracted struggle of the sexes explodes under his feet no longer comic shells. Science, technology and even medicine are also clearly on the side of women, who, completely emboldened, now and then start discussions on the topic: “A man is dying out, so is it necessary to maintain his population?”

Oddly enough, but it is in Finland, the country of victorious feminism, that a man and a woman are not opponents, they are equal allies, united by a common pleasantly useful thing: enjoying life and raising offspring. Moreover, according to all surveys, emancipated Finnish women respect their men, life without which is impossible, if only because a man is the best protector, friend and father in the world. The Finnish man is really very similar to the ideal.

Men, wow!

True, the number of wonderful Finnish men is strictly limited, there are about 4 men of active age per 1 km2. The habitat is heterogeneous, there are places of concentrated accumulation of broad-shouldered blue-eyed, there are also areas of useless search. The largest number of all Finnish men is concentrated in the capital region - about 500 thousand, young Finns (up to 38 years old) are also often found in larger cities, such as Tampere, Lappeenranta, Jyväskylä, Oulu. And men over 45 prefer to settle in small towns, mainly in the south, southwest and near the coast, as well as in Lahti, Imatra, Oulu, Tampere. The largest number of experienced men (for 60 years), of course, is in the land of Grandfather Frost, in Lapland.

The male population in the country is only 2,666,622 people, active age (from 20 to 65 years) - 1,870,221, among which the largest age group is from 55 to 60 years. Men after 65 - 357,811 people, young Finns about 438,630.

The average age of a Finnish man is 40 years (women - 43 years).

For some reason, most men were born in 1948 - 42,000, they are now 66 years old. In general, more boys are born in the country steadily, in the last couple of years - 105 boys per 100 girls.

Finnish women are quite satisfied with such a “male alignment”, their number and age gradation is approximately the same as for men: 2,760,052 women, of which the bulk are those who are 55–60 years old.

Men here live a little less than their northern girlfriends - an average of 75 years (women - 82 years).

There are also long-lived men: in 2013, there were 100 hundred-year-old men in the northern country!

Men are different...

Finns are very different - calm and noisy, beautiful and not, drinkers, stingy, generous, athletic. As elsewhere, they are different. Even the stereotype of a big blonde with blue eyes is wrong.

Savolaks are optimistic, humorous, friendly, sociable;
dark-haired Karelians are sensitive, sympathetic, sentimental;
Khyamalay people are talkative, like to drink, argue, are friendly, but also arrogant, touchy to the point of “showdowns”;
Pohjalais are stubborn, constrained, silent, a little lazy, but very reliable and truthful. Considering that over the centuries a small population has become very mixed up, this division is very conditional. A Pohjalaian can live in the Savo or Helsinki region, while a Karelian can live in the Swedish islands.

There are also many Swedish Finns in the country, always tastefully dressed, cultured, not drinking much and traveling a lot.

But, despite all the male diversity, a resident of Finland, to one degree or another, has typical character traits:

resentment. Especially when it comes to his home or country.
passion for planning and calculation. Improvisation for a Finn is a real feat, a medal is awarded to those who have withstood a sudden "failure in the plan". Do you want to piss off a Finnish man? Say that tomorrow there will be a trip to the park instead of the store. Have you seen how an exploding electrical appliance smokes? You will have the opportunity to admire - this is how your man will look in a figurative sense at the moment of realizing the news. He's been planning a trip to the store all week, he can't walk in the park tomorrow.
the propensity for long reflections is not a property of the brain, it is a property of character, the Finn is very responsible for the decision made and the words spoken: “The bull is taken by the horns, but the man is caught at his word,” says a Finnish proverb.
“Think about it for at least a week, but speak clearly,” another proverb teaches. Finns do not understand hints and figurative expressions.
reticence and commitment. If there is nothing to say in essence, a real man will not talk about trifles. The Finn has a special attitude to what was said - he said, so he did. Or he didn't say, but he definitely did it on time.
“Not all men wear pants,” says a self-reliant Finnish man who rarely turns to other people for help and is critical of himself. The Finn's problems are his own business. Who is guilty? Most likely, he himself and only he can fix everything.
calmness and patience. But if you manage to piss off the Finn, not only a fight can happen, but, with the support of an alcoholic degree, even a shootout.
Passion, risk. Gamblers, avid money debaters, regular lottery participants. A reasonable Finnish man opens a special bank account “for games”, where a certain amount of money periodically rotates, either arriving or decreasing. Such an account is convenient because you can only risk the amount that has already been accumulated.
lack of complexes about the appearance. The Finns do not try to hide external flaws. They prefer sports, casual-home and classic clothes. They have a special love for the fashion of the 80s and are very fond of hats. And not only in combination with a long raincoat, which would be appropriate. A true Finn can wear a wide-brimmed hat with sweatpants and a short jacket with elastic at the bottom "a la 80s".
The real descendant of the Viking is powerful, long-haired and tattooed. Long hair for men of the country of hard rock is a symbol of masculinity and warlike spirit. Outside this image are only those who are over 45 (then tattoos were not held in high esteem), the indigenous inhabitants of farms and those who, on duty, are forced to maintain the image of a respectable office worker.

The average Finnish city dweller is a 35-year-old single lover of a bar or sports.

The average resident of the village is a 45-year-old father of the family, a lover of fishing and hunting.

Beer, fishing, sauna? Or cinema, wine, casino?

A typical Finn's morning starts with a mug (2-3) of coffee, reading a newspaper or news on TV. The evening is more varied. Someone has a sofa-TV-Internet. Someone to the gym or for a run, someone to drive motorcycles or take a walk with a pet for 2-3 hours. If there is a child, then in the evening the obligatory “daddy time”. On Fridays, many head to the bars right after work. Most often, combining the pleasant - a mug (2-3) of beer with the useful - billiards, a sports match on the big screen, or a karaoke bar. On Saturday they can also sit with friends in some oriental restaurant - Asian cuisine, Mexican and Indian cuisine is at a premium. Finnish men like it spicier.

Saunas are also required on weekends. An additional sauna can happen at least every day - in the morning, before work and in the evening after work.

In the summer, of course, a dacha - where they go fishing for the weekend in silence by the lake, contemplating the surrounding and so close beauty of their native land.

Hobbies of Finnish men are known all over the world: every second Finn is either a guitarist or a racer. Everyday calmness and slowness breaks out with "incendiary hobbies": motorcycles, hard rock and sports. Finnish boys seem to be born with ice skates, skis and hockey sticks right away. And, of course, water sports, running and climbing are typical hobbies of Finnish men.

A Finnish man does not sigh in the moonlight, does not strew rose petals on your way, but he is quite capable of rock serenades with a guitar.

They talk little about love - why? After all, the Finn does not throw words into the wind, if he once said that he loves, then he will definitely let you know if he changes his mind. If that happens at all.

There is no need to wait for temptations from a Finnish man, flirting is a concept that is completely incomprehensible either by mind or body. The descendants of the Vikings are also not trained to compliment women. But your "prince" will not compose fairy tales, and a fork for noodles from the ears will not be needed.

Yes, Finnish men rarely give flowers, but only because Finnish women have not bothered to properly motivate them. Show once how immensely happy you are with the aroma and flowery appearance - run around the apartment with a vase, rearrange, admire, put your hand to your heart - and he will drag you the entire flower shop in his teeth.

In general, northern men are completely devoid of creativity, slow-witted, but very accommodating. One has only to “show in pictures” what you want, on what days, in what quantity - and “Voila!”: rose petals, a coat served, coffee in bed.

Striptease, cruise, every whim

Finnish men rarely take the first step. But not because they are indecisive, just because real men let the woman go forward, inviting her to “speak out”, well, what a Finnish woman wants, a Finnish man gives her.

They really appreciate a good hostess, but if a woman doesn’t have time, it’s okay! A wonderful, hardy Finn is very unpretentious in everyday life:

If there is no food, he goes to the store, cooks, feeds everyone. Recently, Finnish men have a fashionable hobby - cooking classes. They willingly spend their leisure time at the stove. He won’t hysteria about the dust on the TV either: he won’t notice, or he will clean himself. In general, the broad-shouldered Finnish macho buzzes around the house like a bee, rumbles like a vacuum cleaner and sizzles like a cutlet in a frying pan.

In addition to these small features, the Finns have a rare quality for men - not to pay attention to the appearance of a woman and not to notice her age. For example, a difference of 7 years “in favor of the wife” is generally considered the norm.

I decided: I’ll put a gift for my husband on February 23 under the tree in the living room. And then she's been without attention for a month.

If among the readers there are still women who have not fallen in love with Finnish men, then after the next paragraph even their stony heart will tremble.

The house is a pride for a Finn, so any breakdown or malfunction is repaired immediately, and there is no need to ask. If he himself cannot, he will check how the specialist will do it. The lawns near the house are cut, the snow is removed, the windows are washed, the Christmas tree is taken out in early January. And in general, the Finn is for diversity: moving furniture is not a question, updating the paint on the walls is a joy.

And most importantly, Finnish men give a feeling of peace, reliability. They enjoy a routine life and do not require a constant holiday.

And as an incredible bonus - they completely share the "women's happiness":

Dress warmly
And in the silence of the alleys
We will go hand in hand

Taking a walk before going to bed is an absolutely real sketch from the life of a Finnish couple.

And if it's bad weather outside, it's great to sit in your house by the fireplace, wrapped in a blanket, watch TV, read, talk and hold the hand of a loved one.

There is, of course, one "but". A man, even a Finnish "racer and rocker", at home is prone to serenity and inactivity. Therefore, if a woman does not make an effort, almost the entire household and raising children will fall on her shoulders. Finnish ladies call such sloths “couch potato”, finding which in their house they ruthlessly throw it out the door, in the sense of getting divorced. In Finland, it is not customary to literally kick men out of the house.

In general, the Finn may well live alone. But he doesn’t want to: “A man without a wife is like a barn without a roof,” folk wisdom admonishes. “Marriage protects men from premature death,” echoes her large-scale sociological study. There are few lonely Finns - 22%, most of them are young people, because men prefer to start a family and especially children after they serve in the army, study, find a well-paid job and take some steps in their career, that is, around 30 years .

Even a woman can build a house, plant a tree, but only a man can raise a child.

“A mother is dear, but a father is even more precious,” Finnish folklore seeks to give recommendations for all occasions, bearing in mind that it is the father who should be involved in the comprehensive development of the child: circles, sections, hobbies, trips. In Finland, you can more often meet fathers walking and playing with children than mothers. According to statistics, 56% of girls and boys (7-12 years old) like to spend time not with their mothers, but with their fathers. Beloved dads in Finland are honored on Father's Day in November.

The status of the Finnish pope also emphasizes the right to paid maternity leave. A man can take a week's rest immediately after the "birth", and then, if desired, nurse his son or daughter for 10 months, receiving 70% of his salary and not losing his job. The question of who will take care of the child is decided only in terms of material or career benefits. If the salary of the wife allows, the father can sit with the child until the baby is three years old. According to statistics, in 2012, on average, every Finnish man between the ages of 15 and 77 had 2.23 children. At the age of 20–29, Finns have no more than 1 child. At 34-39 years old, as a rule, the second one appears. A third child is rare, usually after the age of 40.

As a result, the average family, sports-oriented and low-drinking 77-year-old Finn built a house, planted a garden, raised two or three children. Otherwise, as statistics show, he did not live up to these years.

A little sad

The main cause of death for sentimental Finns is the heart. Mortality from cardiovascular diseases among men in Finland is the highest in Europe. Cancer is the second largest cause. In Finns, more often - cancer of the lungs and trachea. Well, those descendants of the Vikings who consider themselves to be a breed of cocky warriors most often die from an accident "under the degree", making up the third group of causes of death. The stereotype that all Finns are drunkards is an exaggeration, although there is a real basis. 1 in 3 middle-aged men die from alcohol. Terrible numbers are obtained because the Finn, just that one, 1 out of 3, having started drinking, will not be able to stop and will leave this world literally in 5 years of active abuse.

Alcoholism worries the Finnish state, men themselves are worried about other problems:

loneliness - they are afraid of it 54%
not finding a job or losing one (31%)
inability to pay the loan - 7%

Work for Finns is second only to family. Male unemployment in the country is very high between the ages of 18 and 24, but at the age of 35-44 it is minimal. Men, despite feminism, are quietly ousting women from leading positions, however, they win back all the points when they reach the age of “45+”, and after 50 Finnish men are again in the unemployed risk category.

Also, Finnish men don't have February 23rd. And no one will say kind words to them on this day, they will not praise, there will be no gifts and official speeches. What to do, this is a holiday of Russian men. They deserve it, because no matter how wonderful the Finns are, our men are the best in the world!

It's not easy being a man in our age.
To be the best, winner, wall,
Reliable friend, strong man,
Strategist between the world, between the war.
Men, dear, patience,
In solving difficult problems!
Health to you, love and inspiration,
Great victories and every success!

№ 105
I have written quite a lot about Finnish women, and I was asked to talk about Finnish men. I'll try briefly...

Talking about their personal qualities is an empty business. Just like in Russia, there are greedy and generous, stupid and smart, untidy and decent-looking, so I’ll tell you about some of the features of Finnish men for those who have not yet encountered them in life. Forewarned is forearmed! So:

Finnish men do not understand HINTS, they need to DIRECTLY say what you want. You can be angry with them for their dullness, but they were not even going to think about it ...

A Finnish man, on very rare occasions, opens the door for a woman. And if he does this, then he has already visited Russia more than once, or has a Russian wife or mistress ...

Giving a woman a coat is not typical of many Finnish men. It's Finnish women's fault that men don't see WOMEN in them. I wrote about it in the post “About Finnish Women”…

Finnish men do not attach much importance to clothes, at least during working hours, but on holidays even the most “unpresentable” ones are transformed. Finnish men love suits and ties, almost every one of them has a decent suit…

Most Finnish men cut their hair bald, especially in summer. Many also cut their hair for little boys. There are a lot of completely bald men and men with signs of imminent baldness, but bald men are very sexy and therefore attractive to women ...

There are a lot of free men, but these are either those who do not want to bind themselves with obligations, or those whom no woman wants anymore. I already wrote that Finnish men are very reluctant to register marriages. They are more satisfied with relative freedom, although many have been living as a family for more than one year. Some take this step only after the birth of their second child, while others never do this ...

Finnish men are very easy to get close to women, but are in no hurry to formalize the relationship. They like women from Russia, but some kind of " unearthly love / attraction / passion" must arise for the Finn to marry a Russian. Now the attitude towards Russian women has begun to change slowly, they have begun to be treated more respectfully, especially in their places of residence, but “soon the fairy tale is told, but the deed is not done soon ...”. After all, until recently, “Russian” and “b ... b” were synonymous words ...

Finnish men are generally prettier than women. Many of them have Swedish roots and this is immediately felt in appearance. Many are tall and rather slender, but medium height and with a "beer belly" predominate. Finns are generally divided into two types for the most part: tall with oval faces and short with round faces. But character does not depend on face and height ...

Finnish men have a special relationship with money, so usually in the family there are different bank accounts for husband and wife. There are families where a husband and wife buy a loaf of bread "sharing", and there are those like ours, where the husband does not know how much money he has in his bank account. For me personally, this was a very important point, which I discussed before the wedding, because. I'm not used to eating out of my hand. And my husband only benefited, because. he does not have to worry about paying bills and other expenses. For all his personal needs, money is allocated without restrictions ...

Most Finnish men are poorly educated. It takes a long time to study in Finland, and not every family can afford to educate a child at the University, even with his abilities. More often young men after the 9th grade go to vocational schools, get a profession and go to work. Only a few are engaged in self-education in this environment, they are not accustomed to reading, they do not like opera and ballet, they are indifferent to the theater. I was very surprised when, in a conversation with the director and owner of the company where I used to work, I found out that he does not know many world-famous heroes of books, ballets and operas, does not know any of the world famous writers ...

Finnish men love to watch TV, 80% of them watch at least some sports. They especially like hockey, football, auto racing and ski jumping ....

The favorite drink of Finnish men - after coffee - beer. They can drink everywhere, always, at any time of the year. I never thought that the sound of opening a can of beer could be so annoying. They drink vodka, diluted with plenty of water, and never have a snack. Alcohol is expensive in Finland, especially in bars and restaurants, so those who have money drink in bars and those who don't have it drink at home...

Since the service infrastructure is very developed here, many Finnish men do not do housework themselves, but pay for specialists. Because of this, they have a lot of free time, and they spend it depending on their hobbies. Many people are fond of fishing, hunting, sports, animals, etc. Some just stupidly drink from morning to evening. Some combine both. There is a very small percentage of non-drinkers. These are either sick, or “tied up”, or passionate about religion ...

Please do not forget that my conclusions are based on PERSONAL long-term observations of Finnish men: my own husband, his friends, acquaintances, neighbors, colleagues. And since I live in a working-class area of Kouvola, where woodworking workers mainly live, the contingent of men is appropriate. And the proletariat, for the most part, is the same everywhere - “beer, sports, politics” ... Maybe there are other men in Finland, but they differ only in education and positions ...

Features of Finnish men.

Finland means "country of a thousand lakes" or "country of fish scales". From a geographical point of view, it is difficult to give a better name to this northern European country: there are enough swampy plains dotted with lakes, and the coastline of seas and bays stretches for almost 50 thousand kilometers. From an aesthetic point of view, there is no place on earth more beautiful than Finland. At least, the Finns themselves think so, proud of their dense forests, crystal lakes, rocky coasts of the most bizarre outlines, the most unique Archipelago Sea with an unimaginable number of islands. 25% of Finland is located beyond the Arctic Circle. Fabulous Lapland from the fairy tale of Hans Christian Andersen is here.

The main features of the Finnish character are restraint and method. The harsh climate left its mark on the character of the Finns. Expansiveness is generally not characteristic of northern peoples: the genetic heredity of countless generations, who survived in the unkind North only with the help of perseverance and economy, affects. At the same time, the Finns are hospitable, friendly and love all of humanity - but they prefer to do it at some distance, not allowing strangers into their personal sphere and slowly sharing their emotional experiences. A vivid illustration of the essence of Finnish men is a folk saying: “Think for at least a week, but speak clearly!” and another, no less expressive: "Let's sit down, and let the rush pass by."

Finns are very different - calm and noisy, beautiful and not very, drinking, stingy, generous, athletic. As elsewhere, they are different. Even the stereotype of a big blonde with blue eyes is wrong. Savolaks are optimistic, humorous, friendly, sociable. Dark-haired Karelians are sensitive, responsive and sentimental. Hämalai people are talkative, they like to drink, argue, they are friendly, but also arrogant, touchy to the point of fights. Pohjalaians are stubborn, constrained, silent, a little lazy, but very reliable and truthful. Considering that over the centuries a small population has become very mixed up, this division is very conditional. There are also many Swedish Finns in the country, always tastefully dressed, cultured, not drinking much and traveling a lot.

Finns' way of life, their mentality, is very different from ours. People talk less than ours. Many of our women, who were lucky enough to marry a Finn, are disappointed by the silence of her husband, from the fact that he does not understand how you can chat with a girlfriend for hours about your personal affairs, especially if the girlfriend stayed at home. And it is not customary to speak loudly. Women who are accustomed to shouting for everything should not hope to pack their bags to leave for Finland. Finns tend to be reserved and unflappable in most matters. Often our compatriots complain that a Finn husband is not able to express his feelings. This is not surprising, the Finns are not verbose and straightforward in love affairs. Some representatives of the Finnish people firmly believe that NO feelings can be shown to others. Until now, they adhere to the concept of raising their children: - "boys never cry" and so on in the same vein. As a result, in adulthood, problems with oppressive emotions often arise, which alcohol is intended to solve. They only know how to openly show hatred, this cannot be taken away from them. At the same time, the Finns are hospitable, friendly and sympathetic to representatives of any nationality. But do not expect that they will share their personal experiences or the problems of their family with you. Jealousy, betrayal - this is not for Finnish families. But violation of the oath of allegiance, as a rule, leads to divorce.

Finns go to marriage for quite a long time, preferring to remain in an open relationship, to be in a state of dating - a very familiar state for Finns and Finns. They have boyfriends and boyfriends in adolescence. This, as well as a tolerant attitude towards alcohol, lead to an early onset of sexual activity, pregnancy, as a result - to a liberal attitude towards sex in general and the sexual emancipation of the nation. Our women often note that in the life of a Finn, sex is not so important as option - because it is available to them almost from school. Relations in the family are built on the principle of equality, mutual exchange of opinions and concessions. Flexibility and a civilized solution to all everyday issues are held in high esteem here.

A Finnish man will not be jealous of you and suspect you of something. A calm and measured life is common for them. Long cold winter evenings have made the Finns withdrawn. And precisely because they are accustomed to cold calmness, Finnish men still yearn for hot love and passion.

There are legends about the restraint and slowness of Finnish men, but this way of behavior is not only a feature of the temperament of people. This is an ancient custom - in the old days, loud conversation and noisy behavior were allowed only among commoners. Finns are still somewhat wary of loud-voiced and overly mobile people. "The laughter of a smart man is not heard, but seen," they say in Suomi. Even the use of mobile phones is restricted: they are banned in hospitals and airplanes, they are inappropriate in restaurants, and in movies or churches they are a sign of bad taste.

Finns are extremely punctual. Accuracy for them is the key to prosperity. Being late for a meeting without prior warning, which among some of us is considered commonplace, a Finn may regard as frivolous, and will no longer treat the delayed person with due respect.

Finnish men do not understand the waste of money. You should forget about shopping treatment if you are going to get married in this country. Although this approach is typical for many Western countries. A Finnish man considers it his duty to provide his family with everything necessary, to give him the opportunity to have a good rest, but he does not understand a closet stuffed with clothes. In Finland, people dress simply, comfortably, according to the place and occasion.

For Finns, the best thing is Finnish. Despite the abundance of imported goods, Finns love their homemade food. They like to grow their own fruits and vegetables, cook homemade sausage, catch and cook fish in any form: salted, smoked, dried. In this regard, they are like us, who travel from their parents with a supply of homemade food. Finns are very fond of sauna, beer and fishing, and this is not a myth at all. They rarely go on vacation outside of Finland, and all because there may not be a Finnish sauna, but what about a Finnish man without a sauna, fishing and beer?

Finnish men are traditionally very good fathers. On weekends, it is dads who most often take their children for walks, the pool and other places of entertainment. If you already have a child from your first marriage, you can be almost 100% sure that your child will be as loved by a Finnish man as his own children.

Receiving guests is very different from our traditions. But it's better to see it for yourself. And then do as is customary in the country of residence of the husband. I must say that the Finns do not attach as much importance to food as ours. Of course, if a woman cooks well, then her husband will be pleased. But the lack of culinary talents will not cause irritation. But cleanliness, the desire to clean the house to a shine, is a mandatory quality for a woman if she decides to marry a Finn.

Finns drink a lot of coffee. For some reason, they are not afraid of horror stories about the dangers of this drink. Perhaps they have good health, as they live in a country with excellent ecology, a lot of forests and crystal lakes. The people of Finland are not just proud of their nature. They do everything to save it. These days, most Finnish families run. In the morning or evening. But it seems that the whole country is running around. Everyone runs at their own speed and at their own distance. If a woman hears from the groom that he is running, you must be prepared that she will have to get addicted to it.

Among the inhabitants of any country there are unlucky and unreliable citizens. And Finland is no exception. But a woman who is looking for a husband abroad has a choice. And it must be done slowly and intelligently. When getting married, we remind you that it is impossible to remake a Finnish man. You should try to understand him and accept his way of life, then marriage with a Finnish man will be successful.

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I have written quite a lot about Finnish women, and I was asked to talk about Finnish men. I'll try briefly...

Finnish men do not understand HINTS, they need to DIRECTLY say what you want. You can be angry with them for their dullness, but they were not even going to think about it ...

A Finnish man, on very rare occasions, opens the door for a woman. And if he does this, then he has already visited Russia more than once, or has a Russian wife or mistress ...

Giving a woman a coat is not typical of many Finnish men. It's Finnish women's fault that men don't see WOMEN in them. I wrote about it in the post “About Finnish Women”…

Finnish men love to watch TV, 80% of them watch at least some sports. They especially like hockey, football, auto racing and ski jumping ....

Finnish scientists figured out why Russian women prefer husbands from Suomi

The University of Eastern Finland has published a new dissertation whose author, Master of Social Sciences Pirie Pellänen, interviewed 16 Russian women living in Eastern Finland with their Finnish husbands to find out why Russian women seek spouses in Suomi. At the same time, the researcher compared the family structure and relations on both sides of the border - in the Finnish province of North Karelia and in the Karelian Republic of the Russian Federation.

The main meaning of their lives Russian immigrants who participated in the study called the family, motherhood and raising children.

The researcher concluded that in such families, women take on more responsibility for children than fathers, but at the same time recognize that their Finnish husbands are more involved in the daily life of their children compared to Russian men. “The results show that a Finnish man, as a husband and father, is more caring and active than a Russian man,” says Pirie Pellänen.

About 4,000 intercultural marriages take place in Finland every year, of which one in three is between a Finn and a Russian woman. Geographically, the highest concentration of such families is in the south and east of Suomi, in regions close to the Russian border.

As the number of mixed marriages grows, scientists increasingly make them the subject of study, exploring similarities and differences in communicative behavior, ways to overcome cultural differences, etc.

In 2008, a book by Russian and Finnish specialists "Russian and Finnish communicative behavior" was published.

Finnish researcher V. Savoila writes that “almost all Russian traditions, the understanding of which was difficult for me, after all, are not so strange after all. Very often, “strange” things are only the result of ignorance, the presence of stereotypes and prejudices.”

Her Russian colleague S. Sergeeva claims that “it is difficult to imagine complete mutual understanding in a conversation between a Finn and a Russian. The point is in the peculiarities of communicative behavior, communicative culture. She also refers to such features as handshakes, which are accepted in Finland for people of both sexes, and in Russia are considered a “daily ritual” of men, the appeal to “you”, which is common in Russia and not common in Finland, the volume of conversation and the manner of its conduct. “A Russian person imagines a dialogue as a conversation over a cup of tea, with a discussion of all topics that concern him. For Finns, this is just a regular coffee break, more in silence than in conversation, her article says. - Finn will never try to find out what is in your soul, rather, on the contrary, he will try not to notice that a person is upset about something or, conversely, happy about something. A Russian person, on the other hand, will often even ask a stranger what happened to him, try to help and tell that in his life, or in the life of his friends, or in the life of friends of his acquaintances, there was a similar situation. The Russian will certainly give advice on how best to proceed, and will tell everything that he thinks about this.”

Among Russians, according to the researcher, the culture of conversation is “not to support, but to conduct an active conversation, avoiding awkward silence. The conversation is lively, using a large number of interjections, gestures and quite loudly. The Finns, looking at such a conversation, think that the Russians are quarreling, and it is possible that things can come to a fight.” At the same time, “if a Finn nevertheless decides to talk to someone, then the dialogue proceeds as follows: one speaks quietly, monotonously and unemotionally, the other listens quietly and unemotionally, then vice versa. It is not customary for Finns to interrupt the interlocutor and clearly express their emotions or object to the interlocutor. It is believed that first you need to listen to everything that the interlocutor wants to tell, then hold a short pause and only after that agree with what he heard or remain silent.

Scientists also find a difference in the sense of humor of Russians and Finns: “A Russian can call himself a fool more than once a day and tell anyone, whether it’s a neighbor on the porch or a lost tourist, that in this country of fools, the devil himself will break his leg,” but in At the same time, “Finns do not know how to laugh at themselves and rarely allow irony towards themselves or their country. They are very patriotic and treat their country and everything with great respect. Finns have no place for irony in such things.”

A significant, according to scientists, the difference that Russian wives of Finnish husbands have to overcome, is in the traditions of hospitality. The same S. Sergeeva recalls: “In Finland, even visiting guests does not occur without a preliminary call, the answer to which can be not only “yes”, but also a categorical “no”. For Russians, this is an unusual phenomenon. But unexpected guests who come at the most inopportune moment can be a common occurrence. If in Russia it is customary to go on a visit with gifts and treats to the table, most often with alcohol or sweets, then “in Finland they come with bread or a pack of coffee, but you can come to visit empty-handed.” “In Russia, it is customary to be hospitable, even if there is no time, mood or money to receive guests,” the researcher notes. Everything that is at home is put on the table. And if there is nothing, then the owner quickly runs to the store and buys so much food “for tea” that they will eat it for the next two days. In Finland, such hospitality is considered superfluous. It is enough to put as much food on the table as the guests can eat.”

- a simple Finn suits a Russian woman only when she wants to move to Finland for permanent residence;

- Russian women look cheap and tasteless, and all over the world, Finns are considered beautiful, smart and independent, they will find others if they don’t suit a Finn;

- since Russian men drink, women need foreigners;

- Russians behave decently while drinking abroad, while Finns always behave obscenely when drunk; Russian tourists go to see the sights, and Finns - often to drink and go to prostitutes;

- Russians often think that Finland has a dry law, but for the Finns, Russia is a country of free vodka, where you can drink even at work.

According to scientists, portrait of a Finn through Russian eyes looks something like this: “tall, fair-haired, strong people, silent, unemotional, very reluctant to get along with other people, do not like to have fun, laugh, do not know how to be ironic, too serious, think slowly, avoid a direct look, do not make compliments, are tactful, but cold, law-abiding, always interested in what people think or say about the Finns in the world ... "

Approximately the same assessment is given to the Finns and other foreigners. For example, the author of the popular book From Finland with Love, German TV presenter Roman Schatz, writes about them this way: “They don't look you in the eye. Never greet strangers. They hate talking. They don't interrupt you, as if they don't listen to you at all. In response to your compliment about their clothes, they will tell you how cheaply they bought these rags. Smile at a passer-by and you'll be seen as a religious fanatic, or a drug addict, or a gay man, or a street vendor who's going to sell them an Oriental rug, or most likely both.

You do not believe me? Well, try to go to some department store and ride the elevator. Smile, chat, look people in the eye. Their heartbeat will certainly increase and perspiration will appear.

Don't know where to meet the man of your dreams? Maybe it's time to expand the search area? Our editor appreciated the hot Finnish guys from personal experience.

Dating in Finland

On the way to Finland: my acquaintance with a well-read Finn

This fall I was overtaken by a creative crisis. I didn't know what to write about. , men, methods of seduction - everything seemed banal and hackneyed.

To give me inspiration, the editors of WomanJournal.ru urgently decided to send me on a press tour to Finland. The official goal was: to admire all the beauties of the city of Helsinki, and the secret mission was to check how things are with men there. How hot are Finns? How promising are acquaintances with them and is it possible to find suitors among them?

The study began already on the train. The road to Helsinki took about 14 hours. This time was enough to make a pleasant acquaintance with a very interesting and educated Finn. He was in his early 40s, spoke excellent English and had a great sense of humor. When he found out that I was Russian, he immediately started talking about Russian classical literature, demonstrating such erudition and outlook that I was even a little confused ...

It is easy to make acquaintances on the train, and it is even easier to get close, since there is nothing more to do on the road anyway. True, there is an element of luck and surprise. After all, you never know who will be your companion: a well-read foreigner, a witty traveler, or a compatriot shrouded in alcoholic vapors.

However, in December, a new high-speed Allegro train will be launched on the Peter-Helsinki route, which will fly from one end to the other in 3.5 hours. Thus, by investing from 84 to 134 euros in a ticket, you can find yourself in the company of a successful businessman ...

Dating in Finland

Casinos in Finland: hunting grounds for dating

Arriving in Helsinki, a group of journalists and I went to a five-star boutique hotel, which was a ten-minute walk from the station, in the heart of the city.

Before we had time to unpack our things and enjoy the gigantic room (refined and cozy - just what you need for a night of love), we were invited to lunch.

Gobbling up seafood, cream soup, the most delicate organic meat on both cheeks, I did not forget to make eyes at the chef. He also turned out to be a merry fellow (it seems that an excellent sense of humor and sociability is a national Finnish feature) and poisoned a lot of funny stories about the dishes served.

In the evening we went to Grand Casino Helsinki. Casinos are great hunting grounds for girls intent on finding and defeating a successful man. In Finland, the casino is very different from what we are used to. First, a significant part of the casino profits goes to charity. Therefore, when losing, the players basically shrug their shoulders philosophically: "It's for good." Secondly, Grand Casino Helsinki with its aristocratic facade and interior, as well as a chic show program, is more like a cultural center where people gather to chat.

Having carefully studied the male contingent of the casino, I came to the conclusion that there are more than enough worthy gentlemen to meet here. there were at least twice as many as women! All visitors were beautifully dressed and disposed to communicate.

And although there were many foreigners in the casino (especially from Asian countries), the Finns still seemed to me the most attractive. In addition to their easy nature, friendliness and openness, most of them have very pleasant and inviting faces and smiles, although Finns cannot be called classic beauties. Everyone speaks English, and many speak Russian (by the way, when Finns speak Russian, they do it very cleanly and competently, almost without mistakes!).

Dating Finnish ice hockey players

Rules for Dating in Finland: No Hint of Eating

In general, there are no special rules for dating Finns. You can just sit down at the game table to the gentleman you like and ask: “Which is better, four of a kind or a full house?”. Or even start a conversation about some trifles.

Over a game of poker (the casinos gave excellent master classes in Russian, and I finally learned how to play) I noticed that a group of bright, athletic men entered the hall. Catching my glance, the croupier smiled: “These are famous Finnish hockey players. They came to see our show program.”

If I were a single girl, I would have screamed at this moment: “Jackpot!”. In Russia, to get a famous hockey player as a boyfriend, you have to be at least Victoria Lopyreva. In Finland, hockey players, as if nothing had happened, walk among ordinary people. And getting to know them is not difficult.

I already wanted to rush into the attack, or at least just chat with sports stars, but I was distracted by the presentation of Tillander jewelry. The only thing that can distract a girl from men is diamonds. I tried on a ring with white and pink diamonds for 35,000 euros and realized that life was a success.

The evening ended at the Teatteri nightclub. But men came to the club mainly with a company or with girls. And I concluded that, unlike us, they go to nightclubs not so much to get to know each other as to just chat. There is no hint of eating - only civilized communication (the music in the club is much quieter than in our establishments - you can talk without straining your voice).

What are Finnish men like? Very different: calm and jealous, beautiful and not very good, drinkers, stingy, generous, jokers, etc. As in all other countries, they are different.

Conventionally, the Finns can be divided into four ethnic groups: Savolaks, Karelians, Hämalai and Pohjalais.

Savolaks are humorists by nature, and any phrase in their conversation will have some kind of pun or joke in it.

Karelians are sensitive and frank, it is easy to cheer them up and make them laugh, and in moments of sadness they begin to sing or play songs.

The people of Hämäläy are so talkative that sometimes it becomes annoying.

Pohjalaians are clumsy, stubborn and very constrained.

A Finnish site that specializes in men's health conducted a survey among 3,200 women to find out their opinion of men in Finland. The survey revealed the following facts:

Approximately four out of ten men in Finland drink alcohol on a weekly basis.

Every tenth man in Finland drinks alcohol every day.

Seven out of ten are most worried about work and money, and one in five is chronically short of time.

Finnish men devote quite a lot of time to raising children, and you can very often meet a father walking with a child or playing sports with him. If a woman is prone to romance, then she will miss this in a relationship with a Finnish man. The Finns themselves joke that a Finnish man does not kiss and does not talk about love much. One Finnish woman said that on her wedding anniversary, after five years of marriage, she asked her husband if he loved her. To which he replied that when they got married, he told her about it, and if something changes, he will definitely notify her.

Later, the woman complained in tears that her husband did not understand her, as she interpreted a bouquet of 10 yellow roses like this: “Die already, I have another one.”

But what is so attractive about Finnish men?

Such qualities of Finnish men, of course, are very valuable.

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